Can You Live With Cirrhosis Of The Liver

If you're wondering "how long do you live with cirrhosis of the liver?", there aren't really any clear-cut answers. It may depend on which stage you are in your liver cirrhosis. But there's good news. If you and your doctor catch cirrhosis early enough, you can vastly increase your life expectancy.

Why? Because, many people may not realize this, but with the right techniques the liver can actually rejuvenate itself. Here are five things you can do to give your liver a break and help prolong your life.

#1 - If your cirrhosis is from drinking alcohol, stop drinking immediately. Your liver needs a break from the extra toxins in order to be able to rejuvenate itself.

#2 - If your cirrhosis is from Hepatitis B, C or D, or from other autoimmune disorders, talk to your doctor about the right medication for you.
#3 - Follow a liver cirrhosis diet, which is a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole wheat foods, and proteins and limiting sodium and fats. (Although, some fat is necessary and it should be the healthy kind from fish, nuts and plant oils.)

#4 - Supplement your diet with fat soluable vitamins like A,D,E and K and other essential minerals and vitamins.

#5 - Practice stress-relieving techniques such as deep breathing or meditation. Less stress on your body means less stress on your liver.

If you do ask your doctor "how long do you live with cirrhosis of the liver?", he may or may not give you a rough estimate. But an estimate really is just an estimate. You can outlive any number that they give you by making sure to let your liver take a break from the stress and toxins.

And look, work with your doctor and follow the ways to prolong your life as mentioned above. And know that there is a complete liver cirrhosis solution available to you so that you can reverse your liver damage - starting today. You don't have to fear your liver cirrhosis anymore.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    How long can someone live with liver cirrhosis?
    We found out in September that my dad, 55, has liver cirrhosis. He said he's had Hepatitis C since 1982. I have no idea how long he's had cirrhosis; he's been sick for years, but we never knew what it was because he wouldn't go to the doctor. He had to have his spleen removed a couple weeks ago. He's very confused at times and stays in pain and never feels good. It's stressing me out because I'm moving away for grad school in a couple months. Do you think he'll live long? What's the life expectancy of cirrhosis if you don't have a transplant and have no spleen?
    He isn't jaundice

    • ANSWER:
      Only a doctor who has done testing on your father will be able to estimate how much time he might have until total liver failure might occur. I can tell you that the symptoms only get worse as the disease progresses. End stage cirrhosis usually brings bleeding problems (blood doesn't clot right and internal bleeding is a big threat), jaundice, fluid retention especially in the abdomen that is very difficult to control and may need tapped often, increased confusion and behavior changes due to high ammonia levels, and extreme fatigue where they want to sleep all the time. It's not unusual for someone to sleep over 16 hours a day when total failure is near. The body just becomes very weak and exhausted.

      I wonder why your father is not looking at getting a transplant because he is still young enough to do well and might be a good candidate for the surgery. It's a struggle to go through the whole process of getting one, but it would save his life. The only cure for cirrhosis is a transplant. I have talked with many people at my transplant clinic who were either waiting on a transplant or already had one because hep C destroyed their liver. He would have to be totally committed to getting well and do everything the doctors tell him to do. He would have to be evaluated as a first step at a transplant clinic. Has anyone suggested this to him? If he was my father with this disease, I would nag him until he couldn't stand it anymore to try and get one. He might not have to die young if he seeks help. Without it, this disease will kill him. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I know because I had cirrhosis. I also had a transplant and would have been long dead by now if I didn't get one. I hope your father decides to fight for his life instead of just letting this disease take its course.

  2. QUESTION:
    Can someone live with Cirrhosis of the liver and Hepatitis C?
    If someone has a bad liver and the doctors are saying that there is nothing else they can do and want to put that person in a hospis because they only have a short time because they're body is shutting down, could the liver just start to work again on it's own?can you get a liver transplant if your body is not doing good?

    • ANSWER:
      While I would never say never, it would literally take a miracle for that to happen.

  3. QUESTION:
    How long can you live when your liver shuts down?
    Dad has cirrhosis of the liver due medicine,and cancer all around his liver. Was told his liver has shut down. Need to know about how long he will have with us?

    • ANSWER:

  4. QUESTION:
    If you have cirrhosis of the liver can that bring on liver cancer?
    Can you have cirrhosis of the liver and liver cancer at the same time. If you had cirrhosis of the liver is liver cancer worse or will both kill you around the same time? Can you live longer with cirrhosis about how long. Thank you, I'm writing a story and one of my characters is struggling with this issue. Thank you for you help.

    • ANSWER:
      When the liver cells become damaged,
      by any number of causes, the immune system
      of the body responds to this and causes
      inflammation to develop inside the liver.
      The cause has to be found and, if possible,
      stopped and the inflammation has to be
      treated...if not, it can lead to death of the
      liver cells and scar tissue formation inside
      the liver. This scar tissue will block the flow
      of blood to the other liver cells and also
      block the flow of blood through the liver,
      on its way back to the heart.

      As the cells of the liver die off, the functions
      (500 plus) they do to keep the body well,
      starts to deteriorate, also. The liver start
      to die slowly as they cells do and the
      functions go down at the same time.

      This can happen fast in some patients and
      slower in others.

      With cancer, it depends on how fast growing
      the cancer is and whether or not it came
      from another part of the body to the liver or
      started in the liver and stayed there, or
      started in the liver and then went to other
      areas. If cancer is found just in the liver, itself...
      the patient may be placed on the transplant
      list for another liver. It will depend alot, also,
      on how many growth (tumors) are in the liver
      and how large they are. Cancer that has
      spread to or come from another area...is
      very poor prognosis of living long. It becomes
      too difficult to treat and it will keep advancing
      to other areas.

      Yes, it is possible to have cirrhosis and
      cancer together. The cells of the liver can
      become damaged If the cancer tumor keep enlarging and multiplying in size.
      People who have cirrhosis are at a greater
      risk of developing cancer.

      It depends on how fast the cancer or
      cirrhosis advances; how old the patient is;
      if they have other medical problems; if they
      can withstand the long hours of surgery for
      the transplant; whether they respond to
      treatment; if they are able to stop the cause
      of the cell damage (like alcohol, medication
      toxification, chemical exposure, etc).....
      You really cannot say how long a person
      has to live. The doctors can only give
      an educated guess because they have
      the patient's medical background and see
      the results of their blood, film, and biopsy
      testing.

      Cirrhosis of the liver and Cancer of the liver
      are both like living through a nightmare.
      Both are facing death, head on.

      I hope this information has been of some help
      to you. Best wishes for a great story.

  5. QUESTION:
    Can you die suddenly from liver cirrhosis?
    I've just found out that my best friend has died, apparently of cirrhosis of the liver. He was only 39. I hadn't talked to him for a few months, as we live halfway across the world from each other, but the last time I talked to him he sounded alright and did not mention anything to me about being ill. I know that he had been drinking quite excessively, but I had NO idea he was drinking as much as apparently he had. From what his sister has said, he called 911 on a Monday, vomiting blood and having breathing trouble, by Monday night he was considered brain dead and by Tuesday he had died. Could he have known how ill he was? He hated doctors, so I don't know if he'd seen one prior or not. How could he have died so suddenly? Surely, if he were so ill he were about to die, he would have been ill enough to have been hospitalised before it got so bad he called 911...? I'm left with too many unanswered questions, but I was just wondering if any of you out there know anything, thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      yes, you absolutely can die suddenly from cirrhosis of the liver. What happens is the liver just fails suddenly from the disease. When the liver fails it affects every organ in the body. He may have known he was ill, but perhaps he thought he Wasn't that bad off. I'm sorry for you because I know it's painful losing someone you love.

      alcohol causes more death than any other drug and people still do not recognize the seriousness of consuming large amounts of alcohol.

  6. QUESTION:
    Can you live with half a liver?
    I recently found out news that my father may have cirrhosis of the liver (he went to the ER while taking two medicines that our family doctor later informed us can cause he liver to become inflamed and mimic something similar to cirrhosis and we have to wait 8 weeks to retest and make sure if it is or is not liver damage) but immediately my mind is racing. I heard you can donate half of your liver and your the remaining portion will basically regrow itself. So if worse comes to worse I was hoping either me or my brothers would be able to donate to our father. But I just want to make sure it is possible to live with half a liver.

    thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      Yes, the liver part that you donate to your
      Father and the part that is left inside of you...
      will regenerate new cells and become a
      whole liver again in both of you.
      This is fact...the liver can regrow itself.

      Usually, if a person is taking medications that
      can damage the liver cells...if they stop the
      medication and treat any inflammation
      inside the liver (that may cause the liver to
      enlarge in size)...the condition can be
      reversed and the liver cells can heal..
      This can only happen up to this point.
      Inflammation of the liver cells is known as
      Hepatitis.

      However, if the liver cells started to die off,
      then it is much more serious. The dead liver
      cells form scar tissue inside the liver that
      blocks the flow of blood through the liver
      on its way back to the heart and also to
      the other liver cells, therefore more cells
      die off and it is then known as a progressive
      disease: known as Cirrhosis of the liver.

      There are blood tests that can be done to
      see how well the liver is doing:
      1. the liver enzymes blood tests will give the
      doctor an idea if the cells are damaged.
      2. the liver functions blood tests will give
      the doctor an idea of how well the liver cells
      are able to the the functions needed to keep
      the body well (the liver has over 500 functions)
      3. the viral liver testing to see if a virus has
      entered the body and is using the liver cells
      to replicate itself.

      If the liver become inflammed because of
      this damage, the liver will enlarge in size...
      this can be seen on an ultrasound or Ct scan.
      They can also see any growths like tumors
      or cysts, and how well the blood is flowing through the liver. If they suspect Cirrhosis,
      a liver biopsy is the best test to take a
      direct look at the cells of the liver instead of
      just pictures of it.

      He should be seeing either an gastroenterologist
      or hepatologist now.

      To become a living donor, you have to be
      18 years of age or older. You must be in
      the best of health with no serious medical
      conditions.
      Here is a link that will give you much
      information about living donations. On
      this site, you will see in the heading where to
      click, at the top of the page:
      http://www.transplantliving.org/

      Here is a link about the evaluation process
      for being placed on the transplant list and
      other important information:
      http://www.surgery.usc.edu/divisions/hep/patientguide/index.html

      Here are a few links about Cirrhosis of the
      Liver:
      http://www.hcvets.com/data/hcv_liver/cirrhosis.htm
      http://www.medicinenet.com/cirrhosis/article.htm
      http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/cirrhosis/DS00373

      I hope this information is of some help to you.
      I hope this is something he can be treated for
      and his liver will heal. Best wishes to all
      of you.

  7. QUESTION:
    cirrohosis of the liver?
    how long can you live with cirrhosis of the liver if you are in stage 4?

    • ANSWER:
      Unfortunately, if liver cancer is found in the final stages it might be hard to fix especially if it has become metastatic.
      A liver transplant is usually the only way to survive.
      The following are the symptoms of final stage of liver cancer
      Cirrhosis,Jaundice,Metastasized,Fever,Loss of Appetite,Pain.sleep.
      you can get more information about every stages of liver cancer. from www.livercancer-stage.com.
      this might help you know what you are going to face.

  8. QUESTION:
    Can you live a normal life with cirrhosis if detected early and you don't drink?
    My husband was recently diagnosed with cirrhosis. fIt all start with elevated liver enzymes on a blood test he was taking for insurance. We would have never known something was wrong as he has no symptoms just this elevated number. With some further investigation with his Doc, he concluded Cirrohsis b/c of elevated liver enzymes, enlarged spleen and noticed a lumpy liver. Never had a biopsy. Doc says he would have never known he had it if he wasn't looking for it. He quit drinking 3 years ago and just quit smoking. He's 33 and has no symptoms. I'm worried and want him to have a normal life. I'm assuming it's early stage based on the fact that he has no symptoms.? What are his chances of stopping any more damage and living a normal life? Dr. would like to see him every 6 months to a year.

    • ANSWER:
      I've heard that if people with cirrhosis don't drink, their lives can be prolonged. Also you should watch his diet. My step father was rushed to the hospital by ambulance this morning for his end stage cirrhosis. He found that he had cirrhosis in 2001. Could have had it 10 years or more before finding out. He didn't quit drinking until 3 months ago. Last week the doc gave him > 6 months to live.

      http://cpmcnet.columbia.edu/dept/gi/cirrhosis.html

  9. QUESTION:
    What is the pronosis??
    I had a liver biopsy done and was told I had Liver Cirrhosis and Then out of the blue 8 months later I called the doctor to get a medication recomendation for headaches because you can't take just anything with live cirrhosis. I was told by the liver doctors nurse that I did not have cirrhosis I had fibrosis of the liver. I called my general doc and she confirmed the fibrosis. The doctor talked to me for over an hour about my condition that he stated was cirrhosis. What do you think happend. I am a believer in prayer.
    ****Prognosis****

    • ANSWER:
      In this case, I would seek a second opinion. You need to know what is exactly the diagnosis & prognosis.

  10. QUESTION:
    Approximately how long will I live with Hepatitis C?
    I am eighteen years old and just found out I have Hepatitis C. It is still in the acute stage, as I have gotten it with in the past 6 months. If I qualify for treatment, I will probably go ahead with that. I will abstain from alcohol consumption, quit smoking cigarettes, and avoid any further use of drugs and tobacco. I will begin to exercise a couple times a week and try to have a healthy diet. Since I am only 18, I am quite young. I am a freshman in college planning to pursue a Ph.D. I am concerned that I may only have like 20 years or so left to live if I develop liver disease and/or liver cancer. I just want an educated estimation of how long I will be alive for and/or the chances of developing cirrhosis, liver disease, cancer, etc. I want to know if it is even worth trying to pursue a doctorate degree because I don't want to die a couple years after I finally finish my education. I want to know this because I might change my future career goals so I can actually try to have a life past my schooling as long as I can. I'm pursuing a degree in Psychology in hopes of becoming a psychotherapist. I want to also know if I will possibly develop some sort of neurological or cognitive impairment (i.e., hepatic encephalopathy) where I will lose brain/memory functioning. I am primarily concerned about three factors: how long I will be alive for, the chances of getting liver disease and/or requiring a liver transplant, and if I will have any impairment on my brain (because my career goal requires a significant amount of intelligence, which I currently have, but I fear that it will decrease and my chances of doing what I want to do will drop).

    Please give me detailed, and EDUCATED (cite your sources) information. I don't want any 2-sentence answers. If you are not a doctor or do not have accurate and truthful information, do not bother responding to my question. Thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      If you haven't seen a doctor, here is some info.

  11. QUESTION:
    Life expectancy of cirrhosis of the liver?
    My uncle was admitted into the hospital in 2004 and was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver due to alcohol. My mom told me that we are lucky that he lived, the doctors were telling my family to be prepared for the worse. He was very skinny and had jaundice, I could barely recognize him. He was eventually well enough to be released from the hospital and went to rehab, which he has now been out of for a while. At the time, I was young and didn't really understand what was going on, but now I'm nervous. I have heard many different things about how long those diagnosed with this condition will live but have always been somewhat confused. Over the past couple years, it seems his mental stability has deteriorated. I've done some research and it seems like he has encephalopathy, always acting like he is drunk and he's very forgetful. His sleeping patterns are very off as well. Overall, I feel as if his health is slowly getting worse. I am positive he hasn't had a liver transplant.
    What's going on?
    Can someone tell what stage of cirrhosis he had based on the information?
    Also, does anyone know the typical life expectancy of a person with this specific stage of the condition? I'm very nervous and no one has really told me a lot about the disease.
    Any help is appreciated.Thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      When the liver cells become damaged from alcohol, the
      immune system of the body responds to this damage
      and causes the liver to develop inflammation inside
      of it...which causes the liver to enlarge in size.

      If the alcohol is not stopped and the inflammation
      isn't treated, it can lead to the liver cells dying off
      and forming scar tissue inside the liver. This
      can then, no longer, be reversed. This is
      a progressive disease known as Cirrhosis of
      the liver.

      Being drunk can mimic many of the same
      conditions that occur in having Cirrhosis. It
      has to be determined how far advance an
      alcoholic is in the disease..possibly by a liver
      biopsy. Encephalopathy causes mental
      confusion, disorientation, unclear thinking,
      sleep pattern changes, flappy hand tremors,
      etc. This can be mistaken for being drunk.
      A drunk may also develop a beer belly.
      However, someone who is advanced in
      Cirrhosis develops fluid inside the abdomen
      because the liver can no longer produce a
      protein that holds fluid inside our vessel,
      known as Albumin. This conditions is known
      as Ascites. If a patient has this and they
      have difficulty breathing or eatting, the doctor
      can remove this fluid by a procedure known
      as paracentesis.

      I'm going to give you links about Cirrhosis of
      the liver that may be of some help to you.
      If he needs a liver transplant, I gave you a
      couple for this, also.

      Only the doctor can tell how far advance he is
      in the disease and give you an educated guess
      of how long he may have left to live.
      An alcoholic has to be detoxed from alcohol for
      a period of six months prior to be evaluated for
      placement on a transplant list.
      http://www.medicinenet.com/cirrhosis/article.htm
      http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/cirrhosis/DS00373
      http://yourtotalhealth.ivillage.com/cirrhosis.html
      http://www.surgery.usc.edu/divisions/hep/patientguide/index.html
      http://www.transplantliving.org/

      Hope this information is of some help.

  12. QUESTION:
    Can you seek help from Cook County hospital for something as serious as liver cirrhois w/out insurance?
    My step-brother is uninsured and was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver - and told he was just going to have to die b/c he is uninsured. I would like to investigate family living donors but will Cook County do that for someone uninsured?

    • ANSWER:
      They do not do transplants at the Cook County Hospital, but otherwise your brother in law will get all the medical help he needs at the CCH.

  13. QUESTION:
    How long does it take to develop liver cirrhosis? How do I convince him alcoholism hurts our marriage & kids?
    My husband, who is 35, unemployed, and suffers from bipolar disorder, is a heavy drinker and, I'm quite sure, an alcoholic. He weighs approximately 400 pounds (down from his max of 564, but up from the 300 he hit after gastric bypass in 2000). He drinks anywhere from 12 to 30+ beers a day (I wish I was exaggerating). We have two small children (5 and 2 years old). No matter what I say, what statistics I quote about children of alcoholics being at risk for maladaptive behaviors, depression, anxiety, etc., or how often (or how gently) I tell him his drinking is harming our marriage, his health, our financial situation (he spent over ,500 in alcohol in the past 3 months despite not having a job), and our children's possibility of having a happy, healthy future, he refuses to stop or even slow down his drinking, let alone seek treatment. He uses his high level of stress (mainly from his unemployment and our rather dire financial state, not to mention the state of our marriage) as an excuse to drink. He is a highly manipulative person and makes life extremely difficult for me as it is, so I know if I chose to divorce him, he would make my life a living hell. I'm sure I would get custody of the children based on his behavior, but that doesn't mean he wouldn't fight me tooth and nail simply out of spite. Worse, he might run off with the kids or do something even more drastic (you see it in the news all the time). I have no idea what to do, where to turn, or who to talk to. At this rate, how long will it likely take before he damages his body beyond repair? Maybe I can scare him into quitting or even toning it down. What other options do I have? I do love him and would rather not divorce him, but can't see any light at the end of the tunnel at this point. I would appreciate any and all suggestions.

    • ANSWER:
      Poor me. Pour me a drink. This is the motto of many alcoholics. Always blaming others for their drinking and having a million excuses. Typical behavior.

      It's time for an intervention of tough love. Do you want to live like this? Do you want your children to live with this? Think about them and what it is doing. You need to make some big changes in your life. He can destroy his own life, but I'd be damned if he was going to continue to ruin my life and the lives of my children. Do you really believe if you told him it takes 10 years of heavy drinking before cirrhosis can happen to his liver that it will make any difference. I doubt if he would care at all let alone care enough to change. There is no toning it down for alcoholics like him. If he did "tone it down", it would only be temporary. He has learn how to live life without drinking at all because he has no control.

      How is he getting all his money for drinking when he is not working? He would have to climb over my dead body to get a single penny off me for booze. I would give him the choice of getting help and stop all drinking or me and the kids are leaving him. He needs to detox safely and get into rehab. But don't do this unless you really mean it and will act on it if he doesn't get help. Giving him empty threats is not going to do anything for you or him. You must mean it and do it. If not, then plan on living this way the rest of your life with him. It will eventually kill him, but it could take many many wasted miserable years. I have seen heavy drinking alcoholics that have been drinking 20-30 years and they still aren't dead. Others can die much sooner. Everyone is different. It's up to you. I feel really sorry for the kids. You have a choice to get out of there. They don't and they are depending on you to do something. Your husband has abandoned all responsibility for their well being, so it's up to you.

      As fas as him making your life a living hell if you filed for divorce, his life would be the living hell, not mine. He would be so busy trying to make money for child support and his booze habit that he wouldn't have time to bother me. I would have no conversation with him except through a lawyer. If he ever threatened me, I would get a protection from abuse order against him. Even if he did try to make it as ugly as possible, at least I would know I did the right thing by getting away from him for my childrens sake. Good luck.

  14. QUESTION:
    HELP PLEASE! LIVER TRANSPLANT!?
    FIRST OF ALL THANKS FOR YOUR HELP!

    My grandma is dying from cirrhosis of the liver she has never drank but she is 73 years old and i want to be a donor and giver her a part of my liver so she can live. But my family says the doctor says that no one over 65 can get a liver transplant.... PLEASE HELP i know its possible maybe from another center.. any information to where a ceneter does not care about age with a live donor will get the points

    ADVICE ANYTHING WILL HELP THANK YOU SO MUCH!

    • ANSWER:
      You are a very kind and loving person, but the odds of this happening are very, very small. First, you are probably not a tissue match for your grandmother. Second, I'm guessing you're under 18. That means that your parents would have to consent to the donation, and it sounds like that's not going to happen. Third, an organ transplant is very, very major surgery; it would be very hard on your grandmother and the odds are good that she wouldn't survive it. That's why they limit it to people under 65.

      Please just enjoy the time you have left with your grandmother, and stop worrying about what will eventually happen to everyone.

  15. QUESTION:
    Am I going to have liver cancer in a decade like that guy on here said?
    Some guy on here told me I'm gonna have liver cancer in a decade because I drink a lot. I posted I was drinking a bottle of wine or cocktail at 750 ml's or 1 liter every friday, saturday and sunday and the guy said at this pace I will have very severe problems later on in life possibly liver cancer. He told me alcohol should be taken in very small amounts because it's a poison to the body and too much can kill you by shutting down your vital organs such as your liver, kidneys, pancreas etc,. and told me a couple (2-3) glasses of wine on the weekend should be ok but I shouldn't have any more then that because it will affect my health and cause me big problems later in life. He said I had better to stop drinking 3 bottles every weekend instead have 2-3 glasses max in a weekend of wine or anything else that I drink but not anymore then that if I want to live long in this world. He said if I don't change how much I currently drink immediatly I will not live very long maybe 35-40 years max he said I had better drink way less if I want to live past that. He said a couple of drinks on the weekend are plenty however I do not agree with him 2-3 drinks on the weekend is nothing and I prefer to drink my three bottles no matter what he said about liver cancer in 10 years, the guy is dumb alcohol in excess doesn't cause liver cancer. It can cause cirrhosis of the liver but thats when someone drinks a ton for years and years on end and cirrhosis of the liver and liver cancer are two different things so therefore the guy don't know what he is talking about. But he really made me upset by telling me I'm gonna have liver cancer when I'm 34 and gosh I am extremely mad what should I do??? Should I yell and scream and break things???

    • ANSWER:
      I am 45 and have been drinking since the age of nine...its tasted good sneaking it during my parents party's.
      I started serious regular drinking at 12, and by the age of 16 I was full bore!!!
      The amount you drink is NOTHING compared to me.
      I love the taste of it, and it makes me happy.
      You are fine!!!!
      dont listen to that.
      your liver will let you know if its upset with how you treat it.
      at least thats how i feel about it!

  16. QUESTION:
    My disability income is less than my mortgage, and I can't pay my bills. Help!?
    I am a 51 year old man who has been on a disability income from the Government since the 1980s. I have had multiple spinal surgeries for an injury during my twenties, and have been left with metal pins permanently supporting my spinal column and severe spinal pain.
    I was also diagnosed in the 1980s with HCV (Hepatitis C, a chronic disease of the liver). I live with this disease, and am much better of than many who suffer from it, but I am on a treatment plan that requires the constant monitor of my health and function by a liver specialist.

    I have a mortgage payment every month, along with electric, gas and water bills. I am not frivolous-- I have the cheapest cricket phone plan, no land line, and no cable.

    Here is my problem:
    My monthly disability income does not even fully pay my monthly mortgage payment.

    I am in collection over old co-payments I was unable to pay to doctor's offices, and for credit cards from years ago.

    I have a car, which I need in order to get myself to and from my multiple doctor's appointments each month, and no money to put gas in its tank. I have applied for food stamps, and was warded dollars a month. I do not in any way mean to have an ungrateful attitude-- but dollars is simply not enough to live on.

    For my adult life, I have been a working artist, which is a career that has certainly earned its ups and downs, and isn't appreciably stable in nature. I have still managed to make ends (barely) meet, and to put that extra 0 dollars into my mortgage payment, pay the house insurance, the bills, and to live frugally.

    As I get older, I am finding this lifestyle more difficult to uphold. No one is buying art at this time, with the current economy. And I am unable to work as I used to. There are days when i am all but unable to get out of bed because of the weakness, fever, and pain that is a part of HCV and chronic cirrhosis.

    I have Government medical insurance, but I still must pay a co-pay to my doctor every two weeks, and even this dollar sum I am consistently unable to pay.

    For the past couple of months, my daughter and ex-wife have been helping me to supplement my bill payments. There's no way that can continue, however. My daughter is worried about job stability, and has begun to slide into "the red" with her financial situation. She can't help me at the expense of her own debts and bills.
    My ex wife simply cannot and will not persist in helping to alleviate these debts.

    All I want is to survive, at this point, and in any way possible, to keep my home. It is all I have.

    If my mortgage payment exceeds the totality of my actual income every month, is there any way to adjust this without losing my home?

    If I were even physically able to get work, all of my medical insurance would be cut off, and I can't survive without medical insurance.

    Any help would be very, very greatly appreciated.

    Thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      I also think that the best way would be for you to try to sell your art online, preferably at e-bay. It is easy for you to create an account there, so it might be orth a shot, since you can sell your art to other people in countries that aren't hit so bad by the economy.

      I am sorry since I can't help you much as I don't really understand the funds and how they work over there. But I would just like to warn you. There are lots of scam in the Internet. When we become desparate for money, those scams migh look interesting for us. So please, be very careful when you are going online to look for a way out. Good luck to you.

  17. QUESTION:
    Doctor's say he only has a few months to live-maybe even less?
    So my dad has cirrhosis of the liver, Hepititis C and needs a liver transplant. The doctors will not give him a liver for numerous reasons (which i rather not say). And they have him in on a psych floor with a 24 hour nurse to watch him. And i am so sad. I dont know what to do or think. I know that he is dying and will soon pass away but what i want to know is how do you recover from a loss? And how do you make it easier on your-self? and how can i help other people not grieve to an extreme point? please serious answers only. thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      I'm in the same situation. My dad has liver cancer and Hep C. First thing you need to do is realize that your dad will live longer if he has a reason to. Don't make the mistake that I started to.

      When people are dying, before the physical death there is a "social death" that occurs They are already considered dead to everyone around them... Can you imagine how that feels? Being abandoned like that? On top of the unbearable physical pain you already have to deal with?
      I love my dad so much, that I knew I'd be inconsolable when he had to die, so I began not talking to him, trying to sever the connection so it wouldn't be as hard of a blow when he died. It wasn't until my boyfriend pointed out the "social death" aspect that I realized how alone and afraid my dad must feel. That alone made me miserable. I realized how selfish I was being, that he must feel worse than I do.
      Don't treat your dad like he's going to die. Be there for him and ask him about his life and what is important to him as much as you can. Spend as much time with him as you can. If you do this, he will realize that he will want to stay alive, he has a reason to see his daughter grow up and get married, have kids, etc. I wish you the best, girlie. My heart goes out to you and your dad :)

      Edit: As a side note, you can also see the social death occur in nursing homes. No one wants to visit old people anymore. Many who work there already have their deaths planned out because they would never want to be in a place like that, where no one cares about them and their own family doesn't visit them. It's a very painful thing to go through. Don't make it seem like a chore. Take him to do all the things he's ever wanted to do (if you can). Make it the best months of his life.

  18. QUESTION:
    Life expectancy of someone who has cirrhosis?
    I know that no one would be able to give me an actual expectancy, but i'm wondering if anyone has encountered this same issue maybe with a friend/family member?

    My mother was admitted into the hospital about 4 days ago. They know she has some type of liver failure, and they're about 99% positive it's cirrhosis. My mother has been a long term alcoholic, and with all of her symptoms they believe this is definitely the diagnosis, but are un-able to be 100% sure because she isn't stable enough to get a liver biopsy. My mother was in regular unit care, and was put into ICU today because of partial heart failure. Her doctor said something about the fluids weren't draining. But that her heart looks good now, and she's breathing without oxygen. They can't tell what caused the heart problem. They said it could be because of an infection because of her liver failure, or her going into Detox, or many other things. The doctor told me today that my mother will most likely need a liver transplant, but that she probably won't make the list (Because of her alcoholism) and that even if she did make the list, she couldn't with stand the surgery. The doctor made it seem like things really weren't looking good, and that she's getting worse. I have read up on Cirrhosis, and know that there is no cure besides a liver transplant. I am scared that my mother only has days now to live, or maybe weeks. I am just wondering if there is anyone else out there who has encountered a similar tragedy and might have any input for me? Or if it has happened to someone they know, how long that member had to live after being "diagnosed".

    I have been visiting her everyday, in between work and after work, and I fear I may need to take time off from work because of her worsening condition.

    ANY input would be so very much appreciated.. thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      Your mother is going through a crisis right now due to her having cirrhosis which brings about many problems as you probably have already read about in your research of the disease. If she can pull out of this crisis, she may be around for awhile yet, but everything depends on how much damage she has right now and how close to total liver failure she might be. I had cirrhosis from an autoimmune disease. The tip off that something was wrong was fluid retention in my belly. To make a long story short, I was diagnosed, evaluated for transplant and received one 5 years ago. When physical signs appear from cirrhosis, the disease is usually far advanced. When I was diagnosed, my liver was 90% destroyed with scar tissue which replaces healthy liver tissue.

      I'm sorry to say that your mothers chance of getting a transplant soon is not possible. The first requirement for an alcoholic is that they detox for at least 6 months and must participate in rehab and'/or counseling to address their drinking issue. They must have a complete lifestyle change and will never be able to drink again even after the transplant. Once they go through this 6 months and rehab, then they can be evaluated for a liver transplant. They must then pass an evaluation that will determine whether or not you can get listed to receive a transplant. This includes a lot of medical testing along with psychiatric evaluation. If the person is too sick, they will be denied. The alcoholic also much agree to have random alcohol/drug testing done anytime they feel like asking for one if the person is accepted to be listed. If the test is ever positive, they will be immediately removed from the list and be denied a transplant.

      Even though it is difficult for an alcoholic to get a transplant, it is not impossible. The person must have a total lifestyle change and be committed to getting well. They must comply with everything their doctors tell them to do. They not only have to deal with the disease of cirrhosis and all the problems that come with that, but they must also be addressing their addiction to alcohol on top of it which makes it very difficult. Many people either cannot or will not do it. If the cirrhosis is advanced, then it's just a matter of time before it will take their life. The liver doctor is the best person to ask how long since they know all the results of the medical tests. You just can't compare one person to another until you see the tests and amount of damage.

      It's not unusual for an infection to take the life of someone with cirrhosis. Sometimes that fluid that accumulates in the abdomen can become infected which can be life threatening. Since your mother had some partial heart failure, I don't know if she is having fluid such as congestive heart failure or the fluid that builds up from cirrhosis. It may be a combination of both. Time will tell whether or not she can pull out of this crisis and go on. I'm sorry she is so sick, but it really should be no surprise for a long term alcoholic. It's a very sad situation that many families experience with loved ones who just refuse to stop drinking. It takes a long time, but eventually it catches up to them.

  19. QUESTION:
    why is the back in agony with cirrohis of the liver?
    my loved one has had xrays of back. nothing shows up wrong. they say xrays look good. but, the pain is terrible. my loved one screams and says no more, no more, can i live like this in this pain. he will have ct scan tomorrow. his region of pain complaint is back, his condition: cirrhosis. to you medical people, why is his back hurting, instead of stomach? doctor says advanced stage, with shrunken liver. i can hardly bare to watch him in this pain. hospice is coming tomorrow too. just asking if any of you have an idea about the back pain in association with his condition.

    • ANSWER:
      Ascites is the build up of fluid in the abdominal area.
      This fluid can be so much that it needs to be removed by
      a procedure, known as paracentesis, to relieve the pressure
      and make the patient more comfortable. This could cause
      some back pain.

      The kidneys filter the blood, because the liver is no longer handling
      toxins...the kidneys work harder to remove toxins that the liver can
      no longer convert to a non toxic form...this can overwhelm the kidneys
      to the point that they are next in line to fail after the liver. Patients
      can be placed on dialysis to help the kidneys along. (pain would be
      on either side of the spinal column)

      An infection could of occurred in the kidneys or even kidney stones.
      Kidney stones that move from the kidneys into the ducts can cause
      extreme, unbearable pain. Some people can pass these stones and
      others cannot. It would be best to have an ultrasound, in which a
      stone would have showed up better.
      (those who have had kidneys stones say it is more painful than having
      a baby)

      Liver patients are more prone to develop gallstones (however,
      this pain is usually in the front of the body) or pancreatic
      problems (where the pain would be in the center of the back and
      move up toward the shoulders)

      I hope that your loved one is given the best pain medications that
      a liver patient can have to deal with this pain. If he has any
      blood coming in the sputum, vomit, or rectal area...this is
      an emergency situation....when the blood backs up into
      the portal vein in the liver, it also backs up into smaller vessels
      that are not used to handling this blood. They can have
      weak spots that can balloon outward and break open.
      This has to be stopped by the doctors Banding theses vessels.

      I hope he has been evaluated for placement on the transplant list.
      Best wishes

  20. QUESTION:
    Is it possible to get around having to take AA to get a liver transplant?
    What if the person stopped drinking the day he found out he had liver failure? How are you suppose to take the required year of AA if you aren't expected to live that long? I don't understand.

    The doctors never told him he should take AA to be qualified to get a transplant until 3 months later, and all the time he was in the end-stage of Cirrhosis. My dad could have had 3 months of AA behind him if someone told us he had to do it.

    It's not right. How can a doctor tell someone with less than 6 months to live that he has to go to AA for a year before he can be qualified for a transplant?

    • ANSWER:
      i know it must be difficult for you to accept, as its your dad's life we are talking about. but,other people make the list sooner as they likely didnt make poor choices that caused thier liver problem. also, if an alcoholic is given a liver before he is in true"recovery", chances are, he will drink again, and the whole thing will start over.

      i lost a brother in law recently this same way. well, not exactly...he was told he would be dead within a year if he didnt stop drinking. he didnt stop, and he was not eligible for a transplant. he died within 6 months.

  21. QUESTION:
    How Much Fructose and Sugar Can I eat?
    I read this from Answers. I want to avoid getting the following:

    "On top of containing a large number of calories, the sugars and high fructose corn syrup can slow the speed at which the liver digests and converts your in-take into energy. If you live a generally sedentary lifestyle and consume a lot of sugary products you will be at risk for non-alcoholic fatty liver, which could then progress to NASH (non-alcoholic steatohepatitis) or even cirrhosis and liver failure down the line. Approximately 2%-5% of under 18's are affected by this in America at the moment, with most not even knowing."

    Q: Can I have a couple of grams or so?

    • ANSWER:
      The killer sugar is table sugar (sucrose). Fructose is not a problem and that is the most common sugar in fruit. If you want 146 reasons why sugar (sucrose) is ruining your health you can find them in http://www.rheumatic.org/sugar.htm .

  22. QUESTION:
    My mother is on her deathbed. Should I tell her goodbye?
    My mother is dying of hepatitis C. I've not talked to this woman for over four years now, and am still repulsed by the idea. Please save your abhorred "of course, she's your mother!" for after my explanation.

    One of my earliest memories as a child was of standing in the line at a Methadone clinic in San Antonio. There was a man that was always there with the the cutest, furriest little dog you've ever seen, and my sister and I would always play with it while we waited for the clinic to open. I remember that the people there used to be kind of scary, but being a kid I probably didn't over think it. Of course my sister and I weren't there by ourselves. Our mom would wake us up at 4am, to make the three hour trip with her once a month.

    I'm trying to think of how to really describe my mother. I could say " a horrible person", and you might picture the most horrible person you know, and liken her to that. But that's not right, not by half. I guess it will have to do though.

    My dad died of liver cirrhosis when I was seven. I don't remember very much about him, but I know I loved him. I can't help but feel that my life would have been a lot different as a child had he not died so early. He would have stood up to my mother, and somehow would have helped her conquer her demons. The list of the disgusting, selfish, and cruel things she did to us is a lengthy one. I'll not get into them all, but I feel a few examples are necessary to illustrate my problem.

    She once walked into our living room, where I was hanging out with some friends, naked. She was high out of her mind on some kind of pills, she kept so many that I don't know which. She was screaming. It's not an easy memory for me to force myself to dredge up from the dark recesses of my mind. Suffice it to say I don't think I've ever felt as humiliated, infuriated, and hopeless as I did at that moment.

    She was constantly directing a stream of profanity at my sister and I. We were often told that our existence was a mistake. Also, "fucking little sluts" was used a lot, particularly after my first boyfriend started spreading the lie that I had cheated on him. Somehow she heard about this, and she threw it in my face on a fairly regular basis that I was "a fat cheating slut". That was her other favorite, the fat thing. I guess back then I was kind of chunky. Hearing "Fat little bitch" and "Why don't you just go stuff your face some more?" was enough motivation for me to lose 40lbs in one summer. Of course, I lost it because I developed an eating disorder.

    The only thing provided as far as basic essentials to life for my sister and I was a roof over our heads and clean water. That's more than some people have, I know, but why have two children if that's all you've got to offer? There was never food of any kind to speak of in our house. We ate our free lunch at school, and supper with our aunt, who, thank goodness, lived right next door. Things like shampoo, deodorant, tampons even... they weren't provided. Once again we depended on the kindness of my aunt for these. She was extremely poor, but she helped us, and I'm grateful for it.

    I think you probably get the idea. She is a drug addict, a drunk, and a sad example of humankind.

    When I was 17 my friend and I moved in together. I was still going to high school, but we had our own little apartment that we paid for working fast food jobs. Today I live in a huge luxury apartment with my boyfriend of two years. I love him dearly, and this life I've created for myself. I've never looked back. I'm happy.

    Or was. This dilemma has been plaguing me for nearly a year now. I've got the most extreme set of morals of anyone I've ever met. What she did to us was wrong, in every sense of the word. The question is, is someday am I going to regret not making peace with her? I can't for the life of me see how I would regret it, but still, as her life is ending, I'm running out of time to be certain.

    To those of you that would say, "Addiction is a disease, it's not her fault", to you I say, bullshit. I've conquered an addiction to methamphetamine in my teenage years, clinical depression, and an eating disorder. I've done it without drugs, therapy, or anything other than my own determination. And I don't have kids. What more motivation should a person need to clean up their act than having two kids that need a mother?

    Another factor to consider is that I'm an atheist, and a proud one. I am not in the least bit interested in changing that. I can't just forgive her for the sake of forgiveness, thinking that she will be judged after her time here is done. No. I believe people need to be held accountable for their actions here and now.

    I'm not looking for sympathy here, just an unbiased answer. And please, answer as if you didn't have a higher power to turn to.

    • ANSWER:
      I cannot fathom out why you want or need to say goodbye to be honest.

      To me, you said goodbye the day you walked out, fended for yourself, and, made a success of your life

      if you are doing this from some sense of misguided loyalty, i urge to to reconsider, it wont solve anything
      if however you wish the chance to close this chapter once and for all, then do it

      You come across, as a well balanced, thoughtful & educated person,
      I think that is all the closure you need on your past
      look to the future
      it sounds like you have a bright one ahead

      Best wishes to you
      )O(

  23. QUESTION:
    What do these symptoms sound like?? HIV? Cirrhosis?
    Please...I need someone to help me. I don't trust doctors. A lot of times they are wrong with their diagnosis, so I feel more comfortable asking this on Yahoo answers. I will tell you my symptoms and experience and if ANYONE has ANY insight into what my problem may be...please respond. I am hoping the good spirits will lead me in the right direction as I've had these problems for over 10 years now. OK, so when I was a child I was pretty healthy...I got earaches from time to time and strep throat. I never had sex with anyone until I was 18. but I had bad breath when I was in school but not chronic. I think it was just due to a dry mouth but it was definitly worse than average so I had some underlying problem, I am sure of it. Also the infections were more than normal. Then at age 17 I had a MASSIVE overdose on MDMA AND SPEED during a 3 day binge (I know I was a moron and I deserve what I got,...but I didnt know how bad it was for you back then...but I still shouldnt of taken so many pills) I almost died. I went to the hospital and they couldnt figure out what was wrong. They said it was heroin withdrawl. I am sure that wasnt it. I dont think there was heroin in the pills. Even with the brown dots in them, I was told heroin in pills is a rumor. So, thats besides the point. Ever since the overdose, I have had insanely serious health problems. I also smoked weed everyday for 10 years (all day long...I was considered the biggest pothead in my town) I am sure this weakened my immune system since I did not do it in moderation. I will explain all my symptoms here in a moment. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story. So, I think the pot is also a factor. Since I quit, I have felt slightly healthier. My serotonin seems to be back....My parasites have reduced, etc. So, I relate that to my immune system. Anyways, my symptoms are White Coated Tongue (also it is yellow sometimes...and it's severe....brushing wont get rid of it....the only thing that reduces it is eating all raw food and living a healthy lifestlye...which is hard for me to do all the time) Alslo i have a swollen and (sometimes) dried up ankle(mostly when I drink a lot of alcohol). It's also looks like my ankle is "scarred" ...this could be when it got real dry and I picked the skin off and it started bleeding, but it was dry for 10 years. People would look at it and say "What's wrong with your ankle!?" So, it is very abnormal. I looked up online and I think its ankle edema. My lower leg is also usually swollen. I am sure the overdose messed my liver up as I always have horrible breath even if I brushed and flossed 10x a day it wouldnt help. I know my body is overun by bacteria...thats ovbious to me. I am not sure what diseaes I have though since the doctors never diagnosed me correctly (and also i am AGAINST taking prescription drugs, as they also weaken your immune system...so I stopped going to the doctor over 8 years ago...since they never helped me anyways) I started eating as good as possible (organic foods, etc) but i also have been eating a lot of fast food now lately. I know I need to stop that as it just makes things worse. So, I know what to do, I just need to know what I could have, I am wondering if it might be HIV. I am terrified of needles so I dont want to get an HIV test. Also I've only had sex with 1 girl in my life....and she had the HIV test and came up negative...so I might not have HIV...but then again..I do have the symptoms of it. I also have bad parasites....I can see them when I goto the bathroom...they explode when they hit the toilet...and consquently I also have explosive diarhea (ESPECIALLY for the first 3 days after I quit smoking marijuana....which i rcently quit...but I am still having them right now as we speak) I have quit marijuana several times in my life and everytime I got the explosive diareha. One time I got severe Nausea and vomiting and was CHOKING on my own vomit. I couldnt breath and almost died. I got lucky and got some marijuana which stopped me from throwing up and saved my life. Now I dont get those severe symptoms anymore. Just headacles, and diareah and nausea, but no severe vomiting (thank god!) I think that is due to my years of eating healthy that has strengthened my immune system. Now dont be afraid to tell me I might have HIV...I am NOT a hypocondraict and I will not freak out over it. I really want to know...if I am told i have it...it will be even more motivation for me to do everything healthy so i can cure it. I know the "Cure" word is illegal for health people to use, but I know HIV can be cured...I believe in spiritual healing as well. I think this is the reason I am still here today. I mean, I have had these symptoms for SO LONG now (over 10 years) that you'd figure I would of gotten worse or died. I have actually gotten healtheir. I have heard of people with AIDS who have gotten healtheir to the point to where they only had HIV...so I believe that. I may be one of those cases. I
    by the way I KNOW the pills had MDMA and Speed (but i seriously doubt heroin)in them because I know what both do to you. I had two different types. I had the pink panthers which were very high dose of MDMA (even one led me to seeing vibrations..but I took 10 of them in 2 days) And I had 5 white bombs which were straight amphetemines) I had the overdose in 1999 when pills were much stronger. You could compare it to eating about 50 pills in 3 days for nowadays stength.Plus you're not supposed to mix MDMA and speed...it makes it more toxic. The short term effects were mostly heart problems and I couldnt sleep) I should of died. I definitly had a higher power watching over me.
    By the way I am not overweight at all. I am skinny. I am 30 years old and look like I'm 17....(no exageration)so I havent aged at all either during this crisis. I should of added that in my description. And my bones are very weak. I broke my finger from simply wrestling a friend. I used to wrestle all the time when I was younger and never even came close to breaking any bones..

    • ANSWER:
      Sounds like eczema on your ankle. Drinking is poison/toxic for eczema it will flare it up.
      If you have dry mouth that can be what is wrong with your tongue. Smoking weed clogs the saliva ducts. Chew crushed ice for a few weeks should help tons. And help open ducts.
      I know many many old druggies. When there were real hard drugs in the late 60's and 70's. Much of what you say has nothing to do with the ones you did. (Bones being weak) That is from diet while on the drugs. Now your paranoia is drug related.
      If your liver was shot you would have jaundice before anything else.
      Think about cleaning yourself out. Parasites are nasty to one body.
      Your other question said you have some powers that most do not. Maybe your seeing the future with the AIDS if you do not change your ways. Some kind of warning???
      Just a thought.

  24. QUESTION:
    Criticise my 250 word essay on Medical Ethics.?
    Hi all,

    "5. A patients lifestyle choices should not alter the medical treatment.

    Write a unified essay in which you address the following:

    Do you agree with this ideal? Give Examples of when medical treatment may be altered as a result of lifestyle choices. What factors determine whether treatment can be given?"

    My answer:
    Medical treatment and treatment priority are determined by the patient's need. The principle of non-maleficence means that life-threatening diseases are treated first.

    A patient should not be penalised for their lifestyle choice through withholding treatment. Firstly, some 'lifestyle choices' such as being obese or addicted to smoking may be psychological diseases. Therefore, these decisions are not made in the patient's full capacity. Since it is not the patient's fault, it would be wrong to punish them.

    In addition, it we were to discriminate against a certain group of people e.g. smokers, then we risk social engineering. The decision to treat someone would be determined by one person's beliefs of an ideal. It would be wrong to let any subjective beliefs determine whether patients live or die.

    On the other hand, lifestyle choices are sometimes the only method of discriminating against patients of equal need. For example, relapsing drinkers who cause liver cirrhosis for the second time are as needy as a drinker who has not yet had a transplant. By giving treatment to the one who has not yet had any medical intervention, we are effectively penalising the relapsed drinker. Despite this, there is a gain in social equity since everyone gets a fair chance of obtaining a first transplant.

    In an ideal world, clinicians would not have to prioritise between patients due to lack of resources. Since prioritisation is necessary, discrimination must occur by some means. I feel that these decisions should be carried out by strictly regulated panels to ensure fairness.

    Here is the general essay mark scheme: http://www.admissionstests.cambridgeassessment.org.uk/adt/digitalAssets/119681_BMAT_Section_3_Marking_criteria_2010.pdf

    This essay is practise for my upcoming BMAT exam, I'd be grateful if you could give some guidance on how to improve both my essay technique and my ideas.

    Regards,
    Jon

    • ANSWER:
      Just wanted to comment on your transplant info regarding drinkers. To get cirrhosis from alcohol abuse, the person would have to be an alcoholic which I believe would be a better term used instead of "drinker."

      Alcoholics needing a transplant the first time has to do added things in order to qualify that other people who need a transplant do not have to do. The alcoholic must have at least 6 months of proven sobriety before they will even be considered for a transplant. That means they must go through a rehab or some program to find out why they drink and how to remain sober for the rest of their life. They also must agree to have random drug/alcohol testing done anytime the transplant center asks them to up until they receive a transplant if they qualify for one. If they don't agree to do these extra steps, they will not qualify for a transplant. If they are so sick that they do not have that much time (6 months) left to live, then they will die without a transplant. Getting placed on the list for getting a transplant is not easy and this is especially true for an alcoholic. There is a very extensive evaluation process that anyone wanting to be listed must pass, but the alcoholic has even more to do in order to qualify for very good reasons. This 0,000+ surgery would be wasted on them. A good organ would be wasted when it could have went to someone who would take excellent care of it for the rest of their life not to mention that it would save the life of someone else. Anti rejection drugs that must be taken for the rest of their life does not mix with alcohol so the liver could go into rejection if they drink again.

      Now if the alcoholic managed to get a transplant after he/she does everything that is required and takes up drinking again and destroys their new liver, they will die since they never give a second liver to an alcoholic that relapsed.

      I might be mistaken, but you refer to "treatment" as if that is a transplant and the two are very different. Symptoms of cirrhosis can be treated, but a transplant is the cure for cirrhosis. It's much more than a treatment.

  25. QUESTION:
    Can someone please read this and help me?
    The waning days of my life are upon me--that's putting it lightly, folks. If medical science prevails this will be the last Christmas my eyes get to see. I have cirrhosis of the liver (I was a drinker my whole life) and I have colon cancer and another type I will soon mention. Thanks to George Bush and the system of medicaid, I don't have legitimate insurance and I didn't get sufficient coverage for a long time. Don't bother with mentioning ways to fight the system (applying this form or that form) as it's been confirmed my cirrhosis now has pancreatic (found out a few weeks ago) cancer helping deteriorate my body.

    The doctor's, ironically enough, have said I won't make it past January 20. That's a shame. Why? Because Obama, I suspect, will nationalize healthcare soon after he enters, and will lower prescription costs and subsequently free up more money for research into my diseases (cirrosis, pancreatic cancer, and colon cancer). See, with a dramatically reformed health care system after January 20--if they could get a bill in place quickly--I could maybe make it for a while as they are doing research and I am getting enough meds to hold me over.

    But January 20 is it for me, at least according to three doctors. Yes, forty-eight hours, I'm being told, is why I won't make it. If I could just squeek by for two extra days, they say there's a good chance I could get funding from the government and possibly live a good twenty years if capital was invested into research that ultimately concocted meds to conquer my diseases. But January 20 apparently is my day of reckoning, so I accept it. Why am I saying all this, you ask?

    I want one more BJ before I go. My wife has pledge she will slurp it one more time. But the problem is--and I hope someone familiar with medicine can answer me--I don't think my liver can take a hit of Viagra. I live in the country and every day I think about this--perhaps I have too much time on my hands. So, if anybody has any experience in this, can you tell me if my pancreas and liver could handle one more hit of Viagra? I'd rather not kick the can until January 20, so I'm willing to forgo the BJ, but if my liver could absord the Viagra I'd like to pull it out one more time.

    • ANSWER:
      As an oncologist, I can tell you that in your particular case, Viagra is a viable option. You can increase your chances of a safe experience, however, if you crush the Viagra pill and snort it. This process will be much easier on your already damaged liver and pancreas.

      Since you will be departing this earth soon, you might want to consider saving the semen from the BJ so that your wife has the option of having one last child with you after you're gone. Many women like to honor their husbands this way. Since she's past the child-bearing age (I'm assuming), she might want to consider finding a surrogate.

      If you'd like more information on the artificial insemination process, let me know and I'll contact a colleague of mine.

      Best wishes for your final grand BJ! And, tip your hat to Obama.

  26. QUESTION:
    how can I help my mom lose her twin to cancer?
    My mom is 69 and is an identical twin. she left michigan in 1963, came to Georgia with my father (who died in 1996 from cancer), never to live there again. she has breast cancer, and had survived it in 1993, she is a hemodialysis patient, type II diabetes that's uncontrolled, pneumonia, GI paresis, CFH, COPD, etc. My adopted child was born with AIDS, and has developed type I diabetes and cirrhosis of liver. My mom's twin was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer four days, I have to get the one to michigan to be with the other one before she's gone. Georgia to Michigan. I forgot to tell you that she's on oxygen 24/7 too. Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      LOSE HER? NO TRY TO SAVE HER AT ANY COST DO ANYTHING U CAN .

      PLUS WOT DO U MEAN U R CHILD WAS BORN WITH AIDS HOW CAN SOMEONE BE BORN WITH IT THATS FROM U U KNOW WOT AND NEEDLES,

  27. QUESTION:
    hi brethren and everyone else. I want to ask a question here. I am confused and I will tell you why ?
    at the moment my liver is slowly shutting down, now there was 2 christians who said different things about me. One said that God told her I will live, and the other one said that God showed her a vision of me dead on the floor with a swollen abdomen and was carried to the Fathers Bosom by the angles. Now I am confused. If you are a christian what should I do? I did have a dream 2 years ago where I died in hospital. Now what I want to know christians is what do I believe? can you please give me some insight? If my liver keeps going the way it is I was told it will lead to cancer of the liver or cirrhosis and then death. Please can you give me some advice?
    hi Mark and all, I have been going to a doctor and he said he will check my abnormal high levels again soon. and if it si highter then I get to go in asap to a gastrointeroligyst at a hospital.
    devine12 yes I am strong buy only through God. I believe if I have the faith strong enough God will get me through this too. God bless you

    • ANSWER:
      Ignore those goofs and get medical help.

  28. QUESTION:
    My Mom just passed away, how do I get past the loneliness/sad/angry all the time?
    You see my mom was diagnosed with Cirrhosis of the liver in 2000 (they told her she only had 6 mths to live. Hers was not from drinking, someone in her family had and carried this gene and it was passed on to her, my mother never took a drink in her life. She was afraid of it because what it had done to some of her brothers and sisters-became alcoholics. Anyway, she had just spent Christmas with me and my sister and January 6th she had just gotten home, and January 7 that afternoon it happened. I got the call from my mother and she was vomiting blood it was the last thing I expected. My dad got there on time and took her to the hospital, I called my sister to meet me there (she was in CA and I was OK). All I can remember when I get there is her face, my relief to see her and that I had made it on time. The next two days I can’t remember. She was my best friend and now I feel completely lost, alone, anxious, i walk from one room to another and don't know what to do. We always talk

    • ANSWER:

  29. QUESTION:
    Should we report disability fraud?
    I know a woman who is receiving disability because she has a liver condition but she is an alcoholic. She lost custody of her son because of her addiction to alcoholism and because she was addicted to pain killers because of surgeries that had to do with her liver. Now she is supposed to pay child support but says she cant pay because shes on disability. She has also said that she is still drinking so that she can continue to get disability by making herself stay sick. She is receiving disability from the state of California but lives in Arizona and has lived there for a year. If you have an ailment that is made worse by drinking and you are receiving disability is it fraud to continue behaviour you know will make your condition worse? And can you receive disability from one state if you live in another state? If you are on disability can the court force you to pay child support?

    She is getting disability from the state of California not SSI from what I understand.

    Her Liver condition is NOT cirrhosis of the liver. She had an abscess on her liver brought on by years of bulimia which caused her pain. She had surgery but within hours of being released from the hospital she was drinking at a bar. She was given pain killers and was taking them in excess which caused her more pain because of the affect that overuse of Acetaminophen can have on the liver. She was readmitted to the hospital and told the new doctor she hadn't been on pain medication so he prescribed her more as well as morphine. The doctor told her not to drink and an hour after she was released she was at a bar drinking. She applied for disability and at the time she applied she had custody of her 3 yr old son but then CPS took custody from her for drinking and taking pain killers while driving with him in the car and endangering his life SEVERAL other times while under the influence. She never informed California disability that she had lost custody when she began receiving disability.

    Now we have been told that she often fakes illness in order to get morphine and is even willing to have UNNECESSARY surgery to get attention and get more pain killers. Her family said she "doctor hops" and has done this since she was in her teens. They said she was diagnosed with Munchhausen Syndrome at 15. we think its wrong to defraud anyone and that she is taking money from someone who could use it.
    any suggestion or helpful advice?

    • ANSWER:
      Is she on SSI or SSD?

      If she is on SSD, then there is a separate child benefit check you can apply for.
      http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Dads_House_Ed_Ctr/

  30. QUESTION:
    im 17 and need help on emancipation or what?
    1.

    Hello, im a 17 boy, and im not to sure what to do, or if this is a question you can answer so ill just start from the beginning
    i was living with my dad who passed away from cancer about 3 years ago, while he was in the hospital and a couple months after he passes i was stayin with a family, but hes Will was read and said i would be going to go live with my aunt, whicth didnt really work out. so after a year from that i moved out and with my mom who is the one who has custady of me, she has been a ancholic and goes to A.A meetings for prob since and before my fathure has passes. i could no longer living with a person who is as i quess you can “crazy” as she is… she signed me out of school. and will not let me get a job because currently she is getting my social secuirty from my dad. so about 4 months ago i whent to stay with my freind in jersey. my mom lives in NY. anyway my mom said it was alright but while i was thier i found a job and was living a great life even bought a car ha. but my mom called one day and said i needed to come back, and called the cops and said i was a runaway. but she said i could go…. she does this all the time. so i went back the next day all the way to ny. but once i got thier she was a mess and i could not handle it. so i asked my friend to pick me up and bring me back to nj. whicth did happen and when i got thier she would call one day and say u need to come back.. just so she could still recive the checks.. and then one day she would say ” no you a man and u can live your life” everyday it was ethier of those.. and the thing is she would buy me alcohol give me pills and has even giving me a pot plant.. for my birthday…. so then she finally stop calling about a month ago. but i would say about a week ago i went to visit that family that i frist lived when my father was sic, with who is currently lives in Chicago IL. and i went to go get my social security card. and they said that they would send my mom a letter saying that she has 15 days to respond that she would get the checks and they would come to here to my friends mother.. so a week goes by and she give me a call. which hasn’t been for a month and she says that i need to come home… and i know it just because she will not be getting the money any more if i stay here. so now she is trying to buy me a ticket or a bus ride all the way back….. but i guess my question is that is their anyway i could get emancipated, and how would i go and do that?? i knows this may seem very crazy and complicated? just need some help. o in the mean while shes been cashing those checks without me their. she basically survies on those checks. she has no income she has cirrhosis of the liver , any answer of what i can do to stay here with this family would be great..

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    • ANSWER:
      legal emancipation is costly. you only have another year before you turn 18 (next year)? so by then you'll be free from support and obligation from/to your mom

  31. QUESTION:
    My dad is dying and I don't know what do ni my situation?
    My parents divorced last year while I was living in the same area with my boyfriend last year. My dad moved to Florida, where I grew up, and I knew eventually my boyfriend and I would move eventually too because I'm close with my dad, and my mother was living with her boyfriend.

    Around the summer of this year, maybe late July, my father was diagnosed with Cirrhosis of the liver. I really didn't know the severity of the disease but my boyfriend and I moved here in Florida to be with him exactly a month ago.

    My dad is now doing awful. He's on hospice (they came in because he has less than six months to live). He'll be lucky to make it to Christmas.

    I'm glad I'm here for my dad. I would have regretted it if my boyfriend and I didn't come.

    But- We are living in my dad's house. A long with my grandmother and uncle. My dad of course can't work, so the only income coming in is social security and my grandmothers social security. My uncle is a dirtbag and won't work. My grandmother is my dad's primary caregriver.

    I have a suspended license, which I was suppose to get it here when I moved but..well, I'll spare the details to cut this question short. Besides, I want to be around for my dad too.

    Anyways...we have no money. My boyfriend, me, and my brother are starving everyday. The lights and the water are suppose to be cut off any day now. My dad will be taken to my Aunt's house. As for my boyfriend and I...well...there's no room for us. My dad's family is treating us like crap. My uncle is a pervert and an asshole and harrasses my brother and I.

    I feel as though I should put up with anything for my dad, but honestly...I don't know how much longer I can handle this. It's hard to know how much longer he's going to last, but I thought about staying for sure if I felt it won't be long at all. I just wish I knew how it would be here, or I wouldn't have come. I would have came to visit for a week at a time. My boyfriend and I lost our jobs, our home to come here. But now that my dad is no longer coherent, I can't talk to him about it. And even if he did understand the words that came out of my mouth, I couldn't burden him with all of this. It would break his heart that we weren't happy.

    I hope I don't sound selfish. I'm just lost. Mad..depressed.

    What would you do? Would you move back out of state so you could eat, not worry about not having a place to sleep of the landlord kicks you out because the rent is two months behind and hope that your dad wouldn't understand? Ahh...I feel stupid.

    I should stay shouldn't I? For my dad..

    • ANSWER:
      Sweety, I'm really really really sorry. I must give you kudos for staying so strong and not giving up in the hardest of times. Honestly, if you think about it, you've faced the worst already. You've stayed strong these past months, just put up with it for an extra month - for your Dad, because you don't want any regrets.
      And tonight, in my prayers, I will pray for you and your family. I wish you the best of luck and really hope you get through this.
      God Bless

      -oh and no, you do not sound selfish. And it's ok to feel mad and depressed. Just let it all out.

  32. QUESTION:
    can i please have your opinion?
    My teacher gave us break homework. A writing assignment to be more specific. There was a list of topics and I chose to do one about my hero. I just wanted to know if this was good enough, cuhs i'm such a bad writer =/
    Thank you lots!

    My hero is my dad. He passed away 2 years ago and yet it still feels just like yesterday he was here. He died of cirrhosis of the liver. He was an avid drinker. When I would picture my dad I always saw him with a beer can in one hand. I grew up with his alcoholism. It finally got the best of him. It was hard watching him slowly fading away. He’d been to the hospital before but always came out. Until this day I had always thought of this as a dream. A dream, I’d soon wake up from. His passing at such a young age made me want to live my life. Make friends with whom ever I could or mend friendships that had torn apart. My dad was the type of man who got along with anyone. He wasn’t shy, but he wasn’t cocky. He knew how to get a crowd to laugh. Everyone says I look like him and that I’ve got his personality. When I think about it sometimes, I believe I do. I’m always doing my best to make others laugh or happy. I hate being in some kind of fight. I’m always just aiming for happiness. My dad’s my faith and my hope at the beginning and end of everyday. He didn’t get to do so many things he wanted to. His life had still so much more to offer. So, I’ve decided to move forward. I’m living my life to its fullest the way my dad probably wanted to. I’m setting goals and accomplishing them. It’s thanks to my dad that I realized why my life is worth living and I can’t wait till I see him one day and be able to tell him all about it.

    • ANSWER:
      I'm proud of you ! It is beautiful ! Good for you. Just remember, not everyone in class might understand what it is like to live with an alcoholic and some people might look at you underappreciative !
      Don't change a thing !!!

  33. QUESTION:
    Why is my mom very selfish? Do you think she can change?
    Seriously. I've always respected her, but I just can't anymore. I'm 17 now and and practically raised myself an my sisters. I've grown up all around with my aunts, on the street, once I had to beg my grandfather if I could live with him. It's ridiculous! I never knew my father so he can shove it where the sun don't shine.
    Now that I'm living with my mom again, I clean her house, cook food that I buy, wash her clothes and the thanks I get is her screaming at me that I'm a selfish brat. She hasn't given up anything for me. I have ZERO social life now since we move to ghetto So. Cal and now she's hooking up with these guys I have no clue about.(Moving here was her idea and she needs a live in maid, apparently.) She brings them into the 'home' and she EXPECTS that I should prepare everything when she left the house a complete dump. I'm tempted to just leave again and leave for good.
    She didn't even believe me when I told her I was molested once at the age of 6 by some man at my aunts place (she dropped us off with our financially troubled aunt when she went to the hospital for two months because of depression) She thought I was joking and made light of the situation. The man's dead now...cirrhosis of the liver (he was a drunkard).
    I don't know what to do. Does any mature people have some advice?

    • ANSWER:
      Your mother has some serious issues and this is not for you to bear. She is miserable with her life and resents you because you have a chance at making something of yourself. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. If I were you I would talk to a school therapist to help me through this difficult time. I would also tell the this school therapist what is going on and hopefully she can help with placing you somewhere else.

  34. QUESTION:
    Good Grief! Why would any mother claim that her child has this?
    Neighbor whom we don't really get along with stopped the hubby yesterday and told him her problems. I was about blown out of the water when she claimed her son who is 17 has cirrhosis of the liver and borderline diabetic. Sounds pretty far out but okay I suppose anything is possible. then she proceeds to tell my hubby the doctor says she is a walking heart attack and she has a bad back. Husband was polite ( a lot more than I would have been) but what we are wondering is it possible for her son to have this ailment or is she looking for attention. Her exact words is was " it's a rare thing that only boys get it not girls oh and he is borderline diabetic." I might also note that we live in the country and it's not like we have a bunch of super good specialist that could tell you this. Personally I think her doctor is a quack.Her son appears fine and goes to school with no problem. He is in the same grade as our kids.Do I continue to keep my distance or offer her my sympathy. Or is that the whole deal looking for sympathy.I can buy diabetes even though the kid isn't over weight( and you don't have to be. hubby is diabetic) but cirrhosis? what's the deal?
    yep this woman's family is noted for stretching the truth A LOT. that is why we are really wondering. Hubby seems to think she probably wishing she hadn't burned her bridges with us and is looking for sympathy.

    • ANSWER:
      Borderline diabetic, ok yh thats fine. Believable.
      But cirrhosis of the liver? How many drinks would he have to have sunk for that to happen!
      And how early would he have to have been drinking from :|
      Ridiculous.

  35. QUESTION:
    Help, my mom won't stop drinking...?
    My mom has been drinking for as long as I can remember. She gets drunk. Then the next morning she starts to drink again as soon as she wakes up. It usually lasts a week. I don't live with her anymore because honestly I don't want my daughters to see that.

    She works for my sister's husband selling water softens. She is the best in the country and she makes about ten thousand dollars a month. Then she takes that money and goes MIA.

    The last couple of years it has gotten real bad. This is happening more and more often, and this time, it has been a 15 days. She missed my daughter's fifth birthday, thanks giving, and her own birthday. I am getting really scared.

    I studied alcoholism in a history class, a drug class, and I wrote 4 research papers on the physical and mental long term effects of binge drinking. Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. When a person drinks non-stop for a long time, like my mom, their brain tries to counter act the depression by over stimulating it. When the alcohol is suddenly taken away (when she decides to stop, or runs out of money) the central nervous system becomes over stimulated.

    The withdrawals from alcohol are called delirium-tremens. It is more deadly then heroin withdrawals. It starts with a really bad hang over. Any person's hang over is withdrawals from the drug (Alcohol is a drug), that's why drinking a small amount of alcohol helps the symptoms so much.

    After, or during that stage, the person begins to shake. They can't stop their hands, head and other extremities from shaking. Kinda like boxers who have been hit in the head too many times.

    The next step is tingling sensations. It is described as spiders crawling on your skin, and can progress to the feeling of snake bites. These sensations make the next stage even more frightening, hallucinations (delirium). These hallucinations are almost always terrifying.

    Once a person reaches the delirium stage, they need to go to the hospital so that a doctor can give them a barbiturate. Barbiturates work because they are and alternative depressant drug, but the doctor is able to regulate this drug better then alcohol and slowly wean the patient off. It the alcoholic dose not receive medical attention, the final stage is grand-mal seizures (tremens). This is often followed by death. Every time a person survives these withdrawals, the symptoms become more and more sever every time.

    There are many other ways alcohol can kill you. In the short term, car accidents, falling, etc. ( those thing have happen to my mom) Long term, a person can get a fatty liver that leads to cirrhosis of the liver and death. If they don't die from it, they will probably loss their mind. Binge drinking has detestation effects on a person's short term memory, problem solving ability, emotions, and personality. Basically, in the long run, it's like taking a sledgehammer to the forehead and permanently damaging your cerebral cortex (the part of your brain that makes you who your are).

    Most people don't know about delirium-tremens, or these other horrible consequences. I certainly didn't know when I was younger. Looking back, I saw some of these terrible symptoms in my mom. Her personality has changed and she repeats the same sentence a lot. The most terrifying, though, is that I have seen her shake, and heard her scream for seemingly no reason when she is coming down from a binge. She blacks out for days when this happens. She wakes up with no almost no memory of this happening, and acts like every thing is fine, but I know she realizes what she did. How can she deny loosing a week on the calendar?

    When I'm done writing I'm going to go to her apartment. She might not let me in, but I will get in anyway. Honestly, it has taken me this long to check on her because I am really afraid I will see her dead. I love my mom.

    My mom had my sister take her to the hospital last time this happened. They admitted her into the psyc ward. My mom didn't like that very much. They couldn't hold, for some reason and let her go. Now she is avoiding my sister and I.

    My sister called the cops on her and told them she was suicidal. They couldn't do anything because my mom wouldn't admit it. Also, she was in her a apartment, so they couldn't take her in for public intoxication. What a f*cked up country. The police can arrest a pot smoker who is not hurting themselves or anyone else. But they can't help my mom who is killing herself, and might try to drive and kill some innocent person.

    I really don't know what to do anymore.

    Please, if anyone out there has an idea of a way to get her help against her own will. If I don't find a way she might die. If she survives this time, it will happen again. She won't stop until she dead.

    • ANSWER:
      You are in a difficult situation with difficult answers. You are a good researcher, I can only disagree with one small thing you said. When someone has liver disease, ammonia builds up in the blood, this is what causes the "loss of mind" you mention. But the ammonia build up is treatable with lactulose. Without the build up of ammonia, there is no development of confusion. There is Wernicke Encephalopathy that develops in people with chronic alcohol abuse. It is different than the effects of ammonia in cirrhosis. http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/794583-overview

      You know a lot about the health and physiological consequences of abusing alcohol. Now you should point your research in a different direction. Look into family dynamics in alcoholism,http://family.jrank.org/pages/246/Children-Alcoholics.html http://organizedwisdom.com/Alcoholism_and_Family_Dynamics Look into co-dependency and enabling. Here is a pace to start. http://alcoholism.about.com/od/coda/Codependency_Resources.htm Look up AA (alcoholics anonymous) in your area. Look up Drug and alcohol treatment and intervention in your area. http://www.intervention.com/ You grew up with this and have a learned pattern of behavior built around reacting to your mom's drinking and protecting her from herself. If you keep doing the same thing, she will keep doing the same thing. Change your reactions, she won't be able to do the same thing. You have leverage. Gonna sound very harsh. She has money to drink on, she has her apartment, she cannot be taken in for pubic drunkenness BECAUSE she has a job from your brother-in-law. Could she keep a job with anyone else? Who would hire her? "Mom, if you go to treatment, when you get back your job is here waiting for you, we will pay the rent on the apartment it will be here for you. As long as you stay sober, you have a job. If you won't go to treatment, the job is gone as of right now, you are fired for drinking at work. We won't pay the rent, you cannot move in with us, you can get what you want out of the apartment and put it in a shopping cart, we are not helping you hurt yourself, we will help you get well." Don't do that without the help of a professional though....you need the treatment set up, you need to be determined, you need a professional to back you up. This is the only way I know of to get help for someone who doesn't want it.

  36. QUESTION:
    We need a miracle, please read, can anybody help us??
    My boy friends dad was rushed to the hospital on tuesday night after pulling his scooter over to a gas station because he felt a pressure in his chest. He then began vomiting blood profusely and called 911. upon getting to the hospital he kept on vomiting up more blood than ive ever seen . The doctor came in and tole us he had chronic liver disease and possibly cirrhosis of the liver, which caused him to develop what they cal bleeding varices in his esophagus. They had to sedate him to keep him from throwing up more blood, put him on a ventilator and tried doing a surgery called TIPS which was unsuccsesful. Today is now friday. they believe the bleeding has stopped, he has no more fever, hes able to hold up his blood pressure with less and less medication... only problem, his blood count, or hemoglobin level keeps going down. it is now 5.2 and started at 8.5 on tuesday night. they are calling in a blood specialist today because they dont know why its going down so much or why hes not producing more. He is a jehovah's witness and won't let them give a blood transfusion which would probably save his life, but we must respect his wishes. He has a HUGE family and we are all there 24 hrs a day basically praying and hoping. We live in sarasota florida. we need some help, the doctor is being very mean because hes used to saving peoples lives with the use of others blood, now he faces this challenge, and just cant do it. Any doctors out there?!! have any sugestions? PLEASE we are losing precious time. you can go to billy's wbsite www.unclebillyproductions.com and see the man we all love, who is so in love with life himself, who we are dearly trying to save... PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP US we believe in miracles

    • ANSWER:
      With Hgb down to 5.2 acutely, he needs blood transfusions and very quickly. Without transfusion support, the chances are very, very slim. I doubt he will survive this, but it is his choice to accept death rather than allow effective treatment attempts.
      They can do endoscopy to surgically manage the bleeding esophageal varices, but his liver disease will need to be reversible or he will need a liver transplant.
      If the doctors hands are tied, it will take a miracle.
      All we can do is hope and pray for you.
      If I were his doctor, I would not be angry or nasty about it, but I would tell the patient and the family to prepare for the worst outcome.

  37. QUESTION:
    How can I make myself stop drinking?
    Hi.., I've been aware that I'm an alcoholic for years now.., I had a DUI about 5 years ago and ended up having to go to Diversion..., I passed through the diversion honestly basically by drinking a ton of water and not getting drunk for a couple days before the UA but after the meetings I'd head out to my car and go home to a 30 pack and a fifth or half gallon of rum or something...., it's been like 2 years since I've gone even 5 days without drinking and I can't remember how long since I even went 3 whole days without...., when I did stop drinking for 6 days I took paxil during that time to try and calm me down but I don't like paxil because it seems to just make me totally numb and it's a bitch to come down off of when you stop taking it..., anyways I haven't been to any AA meetings or anything because actually I have severe anxiety..., I am not on medication but I want to get on meds however I'm unemployed and I don't have any health insurance..., I have Tourettes Syndrome, OCD, ADHD, and Social Anxiety Disorder and I've basically been self medicating with alcohol but I know Alcohol just makes things worse.., it's a vicious cycle.., I feel freaked out and depressed about a lot of things..., I end up hating myself for drinking but that just ends up making me want to go drink more to forget how much I hate myself for drinking...., I think if I could find a steady job that pays anywhere near enough to even live on then I think I could at least cut way back on drinking but I don't know... I gotta stop..., it's killing me..., I mean I've been drinking for about 8 years now.., and it's ruined my life and my reputation..., I've made tons of enemies..., and besides that I actually had an accident a couple years ago where I shot myself in the foot with a 44 magnum..., that's healed up but that happened because I was drunk and I told myself and the doctors that I was never gonna drink again..., but as soon as I could bare the pain to hop to the refrigerator on crutches I was I reaching for what was left of a six pack in the fridge..., I watched a girl I know almost die and she is dying all because of drinking .., she's got cirrhosis of the liver..., and well..., My liver lets me know it's in there..., i can feel it.. , I've got no insurance and no money but I need to get on medication and I could probably use detox and rehab..., I'm not sure what to do...
    If I could just make myself remember the way I feel the day after I do something stupid on alcohol , remember how horrible I felt and how embarrassed and ashamed and how I almost get myself killed or remember how much I freaked out..., if all that guilt and freaking out and anger towards myself could just come rushing back whenever I even think about buying a beer then it'd probably help with stopping..

    • ANSWER:
      You need to haul yourself into an AA meeting, anxiety or no, before you end up dead. The road you are on right now is a the road to sickness, jail and death. Smarten up and do something just once that you will be proud of. Get to a meeting. Click this for more help.

      http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash

  38. QUESTION:
    Need your opinion! please answer (10 pts.)?
    Please let me know what you think of my essay for a scholarship I am applying for. I promise it is worth reading. Im not finished yet. Let me know what you think!

    Every day is a struggle to live a similar life that I once had. Thirteen months ago, on April 27, 2008, I received news that changed my life forever. My mother approached me and spoke the words that I least anticipated, “Samantha, daddy is dead.” Confusion with a sense of disbelief made me reiterate the scene. How did this happen? Why would god take my father? Will he ever come back? My father had departed overnight and there was nothing I could do to save him. Nobody knew what had caused his death. All we understood was dad did not have a pulse. Dad was not breathing. Dad was dead.

    Growing up, I had a magnificent and luminous childhood, one that most children would dream for. I had everything; wonderful parents who put their lives first to make their children safe and happy, compassionate family and friends, a lovely house in a good environment, and most importantly, everyone was hale and hearty. My parents did all they could to please my brother and me; however, they also enforced self-discipline to ensure a bright future. Both my mother and father emphasized the importance of school and maintaining health. While I played on a travel soccer team, I was consistently encouraged to maintain honor roll grades in one of the country’s most rigorous elementary schools. Though it was educationally tough, my parents stuck to their word and helped me get the work done. Whenever there was a problem, they would be there to fix it.

    As time passed, the superior life I once had started going downhill. On September 23, 2007, my great-grandmother, Stella Manaker, passed away. A few months later, my grandmother, Arlene “Ollie” Manaker, died from complications of dementia. Their deaths effected my life but not as significant as my father’s passing. The elderly are anticipated to die, not the young. When put side by side, a grandparent’s death is a radically different spectrum compared to a death of a young or middle aged person. For the elderly, there is time to prepare and accept death is near. Older people have lived life to the fullest and some consider, death can offer more than what life can. In my father’s situation, there was no time to prepare, neither say goodbye. He was not ready to leave, yet for some reason, God decided it was his time to go.

    About three weeks after my father’s death, the pathology department had finalized the cause of death. My father had suffered from a massive myocardial infarction as a result of atherosclerosis. Atherosclerosis is the hardening of arteries, specifically due to atheromatous plaque, such as LDL cholesterol. Several underlying factors, such as cirrhosis of the liver, stress from work, sleep apnea, and family genetics, caused this condition. Simple changes to his daily habits or seeking a Vascular Surgeon could have saved my father’s life. Despite the effects that my father’s death brought upon my family, I have learned many new.......

    • ANSWER:
      Hi! I very much like your essay. I sincerely am sorry for your loss, and this essay is certainly from what I can tell going to be a wonderful tribute to your memories.

      This is a very well written and well structured essay. Only one small edit pops out at me- the "luminous" used to describe your childhood seems a bit overdone, perhaps just magnificent.

      Your first paragraph does a great job of showing, not telling. However, your paragraph about your childhood seems to tell (however aptly) and not show. Its very good, but maybe add some examples?

      Overall this is a very effecting and engaging read, and I'm sure it will be approved and loved by all who read it. Great job, and I admire that you are writing about something so very close to you.

      Please feel free to ignore any of my critiques, I am a lowly editor, and you, the mastermind of the essay =).

      Good luck!

  39. QUESTION:
    How sick is my father-in-law?
    My father-in-law has been on kidney dialysis for a year and he has diabetes. He has bad circulation in his legs along with hardening of his skin due to nephrogenic fibrosing dermopathy (NFD). This past week, he went in to the doctor to see why he has been having digestion issues (mainly frequent diarrhea) and swelling in his belly. His CAT scan showed that he likely has cirrhosis of the liver.

    After reading what I wrote, I wonder why I am even posting this question. I think I am in denial about just how sick he is. I was wondering if there is anyone else out there who has had experience with this combination of diseases. How long can someone live with all of this wrong with them? I think I need to face the truth. My main question is, how long do we have left with him?

    He is near and dear to my heart. Thank you to all who respond.

    • ANSWER:
      This is not a good outlook for this gentleman...I will explain why.
      He was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver.
      This means that scar tissue has formed in
      the liver and that the liver has dead cells.
      Therefore the liver is not able to do the
      functions it once did to keep the body healthy. One of these is to make a protein,
      known as Albumin, and when this protein isn't made in sufficient amounts...the fluid
      can start to seep from the vessels and
      gather in the abdominal area....this is known
      as Ascites. Also because the liver isn't
      able to function well anymore, the toxins the
      liver once handled are now going out into
      the blood and the kidneys are working harder trying to get rid of them from the body. This normally puts an added strain on
      them...being on dialysis may help somewhat...but it still may be too much to handle.

      With liver disease, not only does the
      fluid build up in the abdominal area, but
      also in the legs and other areas. This fluid
      is known as edema and is caused because
      people who have liver disease have an
      elevated level of sodium in the blood and
      it retains the water with it. Having poor
      circulation and this skin hardening is not
      good and will add to the problem in the
      legs.

      No one can really tell you how much longer
      this patient may have...the doctors can
      only give you an estimated guess based
      on his test results. They know the most
      about what is happening to him.

      I would like to give you some idea how
      to help his family:
      Hospice is an organization, that if the doctor will sign the papers, a patient can receive care at home and they work right with the family in keeping the patient as
      comfortable as possible. Here is a link:
      http://www.hospicenet.org/

      There is another organization who helps
      the elderly and the disabled and that
      is your local Area of the AGing. They
      have volunteers.
      http://www.aoa.dhhs.gov/eldfam/How_To_Find/Agencies/Agencies.asp

      The third thing is to have drawn up either
      an advance directive or a power of attorney.
      The privacy laws even stop family members
      from being able to find out anything about
      a patient from the doctor and other medical
      professional and also in handling any of
      his affairs...like insurance, bill paying, etc.
      if they don't have a signed document by
      him. Durable power of attorney for both
      medical and financial is the best.

      You would be surprised to know how families can pull away from their loved one
      when they are sick. It is very hard emotionally to accept what is happening and
      not knowing what to do or say can develop.
      It is best to not let this happen. Recognize
      that this patient is sick, but also remember
      that they need love and consideration also.
      Be with them as much as possible and
      reassure them that this is where you want to be. Some patients try to push their loved
      one away so they don't feel like they are
      a burden to them. This should not be, but
      it does happen. Every second that you
      can do something for them or even spend time with them, is a memory that will last
      forever with you....don't waste it or let
      it slip away.

      Link on cirrhosis:
      http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/cirrhosis/DS00373

      Best wishes to you and your family.
      I hope this has been of some help.

  40. QUESTION:
    Is this enough proof that religion and God are man made?
    1) Christians claim their god is all powerful and all knowing. If that’s true the bible god knows in advance what all 6. 7 billion people on the planet will do....... before they do it.
    No one has the option to change that which their god knows IN ADVANCE.... (Remember god is ALL KNOWING) that they will do.
    If god is NOT all knowing then he has to sit back and wonder what each person will do next. In that case, god cannot be all knowing.
    So either the bible god knows in advance what each of us will do, or he cannot be all knowing.

    2) It is incumbent on Christians to actually prove this claim. I can claim that god Vishnu created everything. My claim has the same credibility as yours......... Exactly zero ......unless one of us can actually produce our god in person.

    3) Prayers are never answered when verifiable things are prayed for.

    4) No amputee has ever had a limb picked up off the ground and healed back on.

    5) No one with a bleeding open wound has ever been healed.

    6) Gather together Christians in the largest church possible. News media notified. Prayer event can be televised live worldwide.
    Get a Christian volunteer to walk on stage as every Christian watching commences praying. There is no chance that a real god could miss several 100 million or so praying Christians. As prayer continues the Christian volunteer has a finger or hand chopped off. The severed limb must be allowed to fall to the floor with camera close ups from all angles to prevent fraud.
    Meanwhile all Christians are still praying, begging their god to pick it up and heal it back on.
    Praying can continue until the volunteer either bleeds to death or is treated by a DR.
    The volunteer will NOT be healed. GUARANTEED. I don’t care if it’s not staged and you brought a guy from the hospital into the church with a chopped off hand…makes no difference
    Testimonials about this or that Christian who had cancer, or someone's heart condition, or any church members cirrhosis of the liver etc etc etc, who were healed through prayer are just worthless testimonials.

    • ANSWER:
      Again Chris more dumb self-serving logic….

      #1 So if you acted a certain way one day are you expected to act that way FOREVER or can you change and evolve? You have freewill so you can do whatever you like……..BUT only time and your actions will tell what type of person you really are and stand for, believe in!

      #2 Sorry there was no film for your convenience.

      #3 This is not true and again Chris WHY WHY WHY would people practice Christianity or Satanism for thousands of years with "no results".

      #4 That is just stupid

      #5 What are you talking about?

      #6 Yeah something is seriously wrong – you don’t understand the difference between YOUR will and GODS will. He’s not a genie my friend.

  41. QUESTION:
    Low cost sober living homes in Southern California?
    My father has had an drinking problem for a little over 4 years now. At this point, he is completely out of control and tearing our family apart with his drinking. He has recently sold some of our possessions, without us knowing, to get money for beer. Our car has not been working and so my mother has to stay at a family members home during the week for work, since she drives over 80 miles each day from our house. I am stuck at home with him, and his drinking makes it hard for me to concentrate on school. He stresses me out and its even gotten to the point where I don't feel safe in the house with him. His drinking has made him stubborn, and he basically refuses to go into a sober living house. He has gone willingly once, but returned the day after because they were "too religious". We are living off of his unemployment and my mom's income, which is barely anything, so our choices of sober living homes are limited because we can't afford to pay anything. He is also diabetic, and has cirrhosis of the liver and so he needs a place with an attached hospital. I've looked online and can't find anything. Please help. Any suggestions would be awesome. I just don't know what to do anymore. What are our options with him? If you know of any such places anywhere in California, please post. My mother and I have considered leaving him because we can't take it anymore, but we have nowhere to go with my two show dogs, and can't afford to rent anything.
    He has insurance through the county.

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  42. QUESTION:
    Please help i dont know what to do anymore.?
    Ok so im 14 years old and im a girl
    I recently lost my mom she was 36 she died jan 8 2011
    She had Cirrhosis of the liver. All i do is cry and cry i miss her so much. Im living with my step dad which i call my dad cause my real dad has never been there for me. I still cant believe my mom is not gonna be home when i get home from school. Sometimes when my friend is mean to her mom i just wanna tell her be nice to your mom. Because you only have one mom and no one can replace her. I feel like telling her that. Because when my mom was here i use to be so mean to her. I would tell her i hope she dies and just yell at her. And now i regret all of that and wish i never said that. And sometimes and i dint want people to remind me of her cause i get really sad. My mom had been in the hospital 2 times for the same reason. one summer she quit drinking and they started again and that's when it became worse and worse. He eyes started to get yellow and her skin there was blood coming from her mouth but we thought it was from her gums. In the end she couldn't even walk. The night before she died, all she was doing was throwing up and she just looked at me like she didn't know who i was. I started crying and fell asleep and when i woke up she was dead. I still cant believe she is dead for me its really hard. I hardly even focus on my school work. School is really hard for me now. i would talk to my step dad but i reallydon'tt want to and i would talk to the consuler at school. But i feel like i bother her to much and idon'tt want to go to her again. No other family members not even my aunt. Im really shy and i reallydon'tt talk to people. What should I do ? All i do is cry and cry because my mom is not here

    • ANSWER:
      Sweetie, I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure you loved your mom and no matter what happened between you two, she knows that you loved her. And she loves you. You may not believe me now, but later in life you will come to accept it. Don't be hard on yourself. Please forgive yourself. That's the best thing you can do right now. Just picture your mom in your head, visualize her, apologize to her, and say, "I receive your forgiveness". It might also help if you write her a letter.

      Now is the time to grieeve. The peace will eventually come. It's okay to cry. Just let it all go. Talk to the counselor at your school but thats what she's there for. Don't hold all of the pain in. It's okay to grieve-you MUST talk to others and express your pain. I don't know if you believe in God, but it will help if you listen to Christian music. I like Hillsong United :) . Just look up some of their songs on "YouTube", like, "Hosanna", "Desert Song", "Nothing but the Blood", and "You'll Come", "Til I see You".
      I'll be praying for you :)

  43. QUESTION:
    How to cope with very sick Mother? All of the stress? :( ?
    I can honestly say, I've hit rock bottom. I thought that I was psychologically strong, but I'm not. Please take your time to read my story, I've asked several other questions about the same topic (sorry) but I haven't had any helpful answers...I just feel like I need to tell somebody (anybody) who really cares; you know?

    Anyway, my Mom has 3 terminal illnesses, Hep C- (an illness that attacks the liver, she got it from a needle stick injury at work 7 years ago, hasn't recieved any treatment whatsoever) Factor 5 Leiden (A blood clotting disorder passed down by genes) and CCF (Heart failure). She may even have more diseases but it's unknown now.

    She's in hospital right now - she's been given tablets to help her urinate out all of the fluid that was stored in her lungs. Because of the Hep C I'm afraid that she may have Cirrhosis of the Liver because she shows all the signs and symptoms of doing so...

    I'm 14, I'm so stressed out. I wrote a 5 page letter to my Mom I'm going to give it to her tomorrow. Are there any ways to help me relieve stress? I thought she may have had Ascites but I looked at google images and she didn't have pot belly.

    I'm just scared as HELL! AS HELL! I've been crying for 10 hours straight. At the hospital I just stare at the ground and bite my tongue because I'd cry like crazy. My Mom thinks I'm becoming distant of her because I don't want to sit on the bed with her..Oh God I've got tears in my eyes now :(

    I'm getting chest pains because of all of the stress...Please help :( She's all I'm living for....
    Yes, Vote you're right. The pain's from the neck but sometimes from the heart.
    & Yes also the left side of my body (shoulder blade) has an annoying pain also

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  44. QUESTION:
    Was My May-December Relationship a Good Ideal?
    Just to give you a little background: I'm 27 and my ex-fiance' is 57. I loved him very much. We constantly talked about marriage. However, I suspected him of being a player because he was WAY too flirtatious with other women, and I found out he had been cheating on me with his other ex-fiance who is 55 from the start of our relationship (I may have been a rebound relationship). They had a relationship for 7 years, while me and him only had an off again/on again relationship for 3 years. I believe they had more things in common like music/tv/going out gambling together. However, I stayed with him in part because the sex was great and for the security that some younger and immature guys can't provide. Although, I do pretty well on my own, so don't get that wrong. I had just lost my father to cirrhosis of the liver when I met this father figure that I thought could replace what was missing in my life 3 years ago. I had met my ex in a porn shop where he worked. So, I was looking for love in all the wrong places, and I didn't care where I got it from as long as it was a lot of affection that I desperately needed. I just moved back in with my mom because I was living with my ex for 6 months at his place. My mom is wonderful, but I was much closer to my dad. Anyway, my ex mentioned he might have known my dad and went to high school with him. I think that gave me some comfort or peace that this dude knew my pops. Then, I just fell hard in love with my now ex. Do you think I'm crazy?! I wonder though if he could have just been taking advantage of my age and being naive. There are quite a bit of times where I realized the things he told me was pure bullshit. Maybe he told me things just to get in my pants and stay there. What do you think? Furthermore, he has 5 ex-wives and 2 kids plus 3 grandkids. Was I an idiot for trusting him? It's been 3 months since we've been broken up. It all started when I went with my intuition and checked his phone after becoming suspicous about his communication with his ex. He texted her, "I miss you," and they've been sending each other texts back and forth for awhile. She even sent him a naked picture! He showed me it, can you believe it? I don't know if he was bragging that he could get any woman he wanted or what. I always told him how sexy I thought he was and complimented him all the time. Well, I finally got fed up and called his ex by getting the number from his phone. She was very polite and dished all the dirt about him. I found out he was still seeing her a couple of times a week when he had told me he was supposed to be at a totally different place. I believed him and didn't question that because I didn't want to annoy him by doubting him and asking all the time also about his dealings with his ex: thereby losing him. Boy, do I feel like a fool. Anyways, everything she said checked out about him--the lies he told that I didn't even catch onto blew my mind. The person who I thought was my loving man had told me the same sweet romantic sayings that were reserved for his ex-fiancee.' I thought I was the only person that he wanted to be buried with, to be the last person he saw when he died, that I was THE ONE--only to find out he told that to his ex too. I smell a pattern going on here, don't you? What she said made sense, but do you think she had a reason to lie? She REALLY wanted him back and would have done anything short of hurting me to be back together with him again. They are together right now, and I don't care. I'm happy for them. It's just that I wish women wouldn't degrade themselves the way his ex-fiancee' did because she let him shit all over her and did everything for him while she got very little in return. Women like her gives women in general a bad name. No wonder men think they can boss us around and do what they want. I sorta took her place, and she didn't mind that I was with him as long as she could stilll see him on the side. I hope to change that and advocate self-respect for women first and foremost.Who'd want a long-term relationship with someone that's so quick to go behind their partner's back and lie and cheat anyway? Honestly, my ex is a deceiving scumbag. His ex-fiancee' even attempted suicide over that fool. He's not all that. But neither is she. Maybe she can't get anyone. Nevertheless, I formed a bit of a bond with that lady as she dished the dirt on who my ex really was. Just when you think you know someone, life throws you a curveball. Do you think he's a pervert and that our relationship was innapropriate? One time, he gave me a ring for my birthday/christmas present. It was a nice opal ring that I discovered after briefly describing it to my ex's ex-fiancee', had belonged to her. What an asshole! He made me feel cheap...or maybe I made myself feel cheap.. I deserve more and much better. I'm glad we are brok

    • ANSWER:
      You Jersey girls certainly live interesting lives,
      but you're not alone in playing the fool and being used.
      A former friend landed a job working for a multimillionaire hotel and casino owner in Detroit.
      He was 63, married and 29 years older than she, yet he began pursuing her immediately.
      He made her his personal assistant and office manager and began flying her to distant
      and exotic destinations for "important meetings" and introduced her to many of his wealthy
      friends, such as Smokey Robinson, Tiger Woods, Aretha Franklin, Michael Jackson, etc.

      After a year of this, jetting her all around and introducing her to a lavish new life-style,
      he let her know how much he had come to love her and respect her business talents and
      that he was also quite unhappy in his marriage, but due to his notoriety and public image,
      he didn't want to divorce his wife, Bella, until their daughter Alana had gone off to college.

      So if she could just be patient, if she would be willing to keep their relationship a secret,
      he would continue showing her all the wonderful things he had been and more and pay her
      a monthly "allowance" on top of that, just for the privilege of sharing her bed on occasion.
      She bought it.
      Five years later, in 2008, when she thought their relationship should have been heating up,
      it started looking as though he was growing more distant, spending fewer nights with her,
      going to those distant meetings without her and 'forgetting' her allowance now and then.

      So, she thought she'd get a little cosmetic work done, so she would look more appealing
      to him and better in a swimsuit when they snuck away to the Turks, like he'd said they would.

      Of course, to finance the work she felt she needed done, she wrote an e-mail and asked
      that he please give her an advance of a few months of her allowance. Silly move.

      Since unknown to her he was trying to slowly distance himself from the relationship and
      because she was still a salaried employee of his, to avoid a possible lawsuit from
      a jilted mistress, rather than firing her directly, he did what any savvy business man would:

      He closed down the entire office she worked at, sighting the bad economy and poor sales,
      laying-off dozens of people and only moving a few (not her) to the Ren-Center main office.

      By the time her naivete' cleared, nearly a year had gone by and he hardly ever saw her,
      spending all his free time in Pennsylvania, trying to open a new casino there, or jetting
      out West to Vegas or Colorado to check on his other businesses, leaving her behind.

      There's a lot more to the story, which is the truly interesting part as far as I'm concerned,
      once his wife decided to run for Mayor, which all but guaranteed he wouldn't divorce her.

      Suffice it to say that what I've relayed thus far should let you know that you're not alone
      in having been lied to on a grand scale and it can happen to anyone, at any age.

      What may have looked like a promising, beautiful picture from a distant glance,
      is usually made up of the same twisted little lines as many other forgeries.

  45. QUESTION:
    RHH:what do you think of the lyrics...?
    ok so this is a bunch of random thoughts thats metaphors of sorts of a night I had...

    this is the instrumental http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L4EWGyjva_U

    My eyes Open as I’m serving over the median
    speedin’ and weavin’ as I light the weed again
    I breathe in...now my thoughts collected
    the dots connected I’ve spotted the deceptive
    see my shades on but my visions so clear
    can’t see the rain on the windshield I’m living with no fear
    a serpent that sprouted wings to rise above
    the doubted dreams that closed the eyes of love
    but I could never be as fly as my dove...
    try as I might but my emotion couldn’t supply enough
    stability or support I fire off with an artillery’s force
    and with an Gemini’s ability I calm down, as tranquility course
    threw my veins to a dead end like this road I’m on
    the pavement’s cracked like our broken bond
    as the tire’s tread screams...KEEP HOLDING ON
    as I slide around curves I slipped and never wrote this song
    you and me are figments of a bigger imagination
    from a high point I see reality mixing with fascination
    and we as people are evil it equals a quicker assassination
    of a sicker population like those whose liver got liquor saturation
    simply rotten mutha fuckas a society’s cirrhosis
    but then again who am I to judge I’m not sobriety’s soldier
    home safe but drank til my heart burns and I’ll be staring at Zantac’s tomorrow
    then I’ll smoke til my LUNGZ NUM, cause I am an American Abstract of sorrow
    to the first guy...I wrote this if you don't believe me feel free to throw yourself off a cliff like I throw myself into my lyrics...and also I think it fits the beat pretty good.

    • ANSWER:
      I give it a 9/10 the emotion in it was massive, the metaphors were great too. But yeah it didn't fit the instrumental well, and like the first person said One Mic' would fit this very well. Once again good post.

      I did one last night here a link to it:
      http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhBLOhVIonKNcEkK6SK0IH3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090408215339AAdrhsa
      I'm thinking about making that verse the last on my title track for the demo I'm going to record when I get a condenser.

  46. QUESTION:
    Help, my mom won't stop drinking...?
    My mom has been drinking for as long as I can remember. She gets drunk. Then the next morning she starts to drink again as soon as she wakes up. It usually lasts a week. I don't live with her anymore because honestly I don't want my daughters to see that.

    She works for my sister's husband selling water softens. She is the best in the country and she makes about ten thousand dollars a month. Then she takes that money and goes MIA.

    The last couple of years it has gotten real bad. This is happening more and more often, and this time, it has been a 15 days. She missed my daughter's fifth birthday, thanks giving, and her own birthday. I am getting really scared.

    I studied alcoholism in a history class, a drug class, and I wrote 4 research papers on the physical and mental long term effects of binge drinking. Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. When a person drinks non-stop for a long time, like my mom, their brain tries to counter act the depression by over stimulating it. When the alcohol is suddenly taken away (when she decides to stop, or runs out of money) the central nervous system becomes over stimulated.

    The withdrawals from alcohol are called delirium-tremens. It is more deadly then heroin withdrawals. It starts with a really bad hang over. Any person's hang over is withdrawals from the drug (Alcohol is a drug), that's why drinking a small amount of alcohol helps the symptoms so much.

    After, or during that stage, the person begins to shake. They can't stop their hands, head and other extremities from shaking. Kinda like boxers who have been hit in the head too many times.

    The next step is tingling sensations. It is described as spiders crawling on your skin, and can progress to the feeling of snake bites. These sensations make the next stage even more frightening, hallucinations (delirium). These hallucinations are almost always terrifying.

    Once a person reaches the delirium stage, they need to go to the hospital so that a doctor can give them a barbiturate. Barbiturates work because they are and alternative depressant drug, but the doctor is able to regulate this drug better then alcohol and slowly wean the patient off. It the alcoholic dose not receive medical attention, the final stage is grand-mal seizures (tremens). This is often followed by death. Every time a person survives these withdrawals, the symptoms become more and more sever every time.

    There are many other ways alcohol can kill you. In the short term, car accidents, falling, etc. ( those thing have happen to my mom) Long term, a person can get a fatty liver that leads to cirrhosis of the liver and death. If they don't die from it, they will probably loss their mind. Binge drinking has detestation effects on a person's short term memory, problem solving ability, emotions, and personality. Basically, in the long run, it's like taking a sledgehammer to the forehead and permanently damaging your cerebral cortex (the part of your brain that makes you who your are).

    Most people don't know about delirium-tremens, or these other horrible consequences. I certainly didn't know when I was younger. Looking back, I saw some of these terrible symptoms in my mom. Her personality has changed and she repeats the same sentence a lot. The most terrifying, though, is that I have seen her shake, and heard her scream for seemingly no reason when she is coming down from a binge. She blacks out for days when this happens. She wakes up with no almost no memory of this happening, and acts like every thing is fine, but I know she realizes what she did. How can she deny loosing a week on the calendar?

    When I'm done writing I'm going to go to her apartment. She might not let me in, but I will get in anyway. Honestly, it has taken me this long to check on her because I am really afraid I will see her dead. I love my mom.

    My mom had my sister take her to the hospital last time this happened. They admitted her into the psyc ward. My mom didn't like that very much. They couldn't hold, for some reason and let her go. Now she is avoiding my sister and I.

    My sister called the cops on her and told them she was suicidal. They couldn't do anything because my mom wouldn't admit it. Also, she was in her a apartment, so they couldn't take her in for public intoxication. What a f*cked up country. The police can arrest a pot smoker who is not hurting themselves or anyone else. But they can't help my mom who is killing herself, and might try to drive and kill some innocent person.

    I really don't know what to do anymore.

    Please, if anyone out there has an idea of a way to get her help against her own will. If I don't find a way she might die. If she survives this time, it will happen again. She won't stop until she dead.

    • ANSWER:
      i know exactly how you feel! my mom was a very big drinker all throughout my child hood, to the point i was taking care of my younger siblings. She would drink all day, half the night, then when she would wake up if she even went to sleep would wake up and drink again. My mom couldnt even keep a job. I had tried calling the cops, NOTHING! It actually took something HUGE for my mom to change. The day before easter on March 22, 2008 she stood up from the bed and fell forward. Being drunk she didnt have the reaction to catch herself. She hit head first making a whiplash motion and snapped the disc between C5 and C6 invertabrae. When the disc shattered bone marrow went into her spinal cord and damanged it. She is now a partial quadriplegic. She is able to move her neck, shoulders, and elbows. So i advise you to get help ASAP! There is actually a law that you and your sister can put her into a rehab even though she is over 18. Look into rehab centers around her place and see about them taking your mom. The SRS can help as well, just call them up and tell them your situation and how you and your sister feel as if she is endangering her own life. If you can give them enough information they will be forced to investigate and put her in a rehab facility, but only if you can prove its for her own good.

  47. QUESTION:
    Help, my mom won't stop drinking...?
    My mom has been drinking for as long as I can remember. She gets drunk. Then the next morning she starts to drink again as soon as she wakes up. It usually lasts a week. I don't live with her anymore because honestly I don't want my daughters to see that.

    She works for my sister's husband selling water softens. She is the best in the country and she makes about ten thousand dollars a month. Then she takes that money and goes MIA.

    The last couple of years it has gotten real bad. This is happening more and more often, and this time, it has been a 15 days. She missed my daughter's fifth birthday, thanks giving, and her own birthday. I am getting really scared.

    I studied alcoholism in a history class, a drug class, and I wrote 4 research papers on the physical and mental long term effects of binge drinking. Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. When a person drinks non-stop for a long time, like my mom, their brain tries to counter act the depression by over stimulating it. When the alcohol is suddenly taken away (when she decides to stop, or runs out of money) the central nervous system becomes over stimulated.

    The withdrawals from alcohol are called delirium-tremens. It is more deadly then heroin withdrawals. It starts with a really bad hang over. Any person's hang over is withdrawals from the drug (Alcohol is a drug), that's why drinking a small amount of alcohol helps the symptoms so much.

    After, or during that stage, the person begins to shake. They can't stop their hands, head and other extremities from shaking. Kinda like boxers who have been hit in the head too many times.

    The next step is tingling sensations. It is described as spiders crawling on your skin, and can progress to the feeling of snake bites. These sensations make the next stage even more frightening, hallucinations (delirium). These hallucinations are almost always terrifying.

    Once a person reaches the delirium stage, they need to go to the hospital so that a doctor can give them a barbiturate. Barbiturates work because they are and alternative depressant drug, but the doctor is able to regulate this drug better then alcohol and slowly wean the patient off. It the alcoholic dose not receive medical attention, the final stage is grand-mal seizures (tremens). This is often followed by death. Every time a person survives these withdrawals, the symptoms become more and more sever every time.

    There are many other ways alcohol can kill you. In the short term, car accidents, falling, etc. ( those thing have happen to my mom) Long term, a person can get a fatty liver that leads to cirrhosis of the liver and death. If they don't die from it, they will probably loss their mind. Binge drinking has detestation effects on a person's short term memory, problem solving ability, emotions, and personality. Basically, in the long run, it's like taking a sledgehammer to the forehead and permanently damaging your cerebral cortex (the part of your brain that makes you who your are).

    Most people don't know about delirium-tremens, or these other horrible consequences. I certainly didn't know when I was younger. Looking back, I saw some of these terrible symptoms in my mom. Her personality has changed and she repeats the same sentence a lot. The most terrifying, though, is that I have seen her shake, and heard her scream for seemingly no reason when she is coming down from a binge. She blacks out for days when this happens. She wakes up with no almost no memory of this happening, and acts like every thing is fine, but I know she realizes what she did. How can she deny loosing a week on the calendar?

    When I'm done writing I'm going to go to her apartment. She might not let me in, but I will get in anyway. Honestly, it has taken me this long to check on her because I am really afraid I will see her dead. I love my mom.

    My mom had my sister take her to the hospital last time this happened. They admitted her into the psyc ward. My mom didn't like that very much. They couldn't hold, for some reason and let her go. Now she is avoiding my sister and I.

    My sister called the cops on her and told them she was suicidal. They couldn't do anything because my mom wouldn't admit it. Also, she was in her a apartment, so they couldn't take her in for public intoxication. What a f*cked up country. The police can arrest a pot smoker who is not hurting themselves or anyone else. But they can't help my mom who is killing herself, and might try to drive and kill some innocent person.

    I really don't know what to do anymore.

    Please, if anyone out there has an idea of a way to get her help against her own will. If I don't find a way she might die. If she survives this time, it will happen again. She won't stop until she dead.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi, my sister is in your mother's position. There is nothing you can do about it, even if you beg and plead, and get on your knees, and cry they don't listen. You can talk to them about the advantages of not drinking, and not spending money on drugs, but they go ahead and do it anyway, they don't stop. They are addicted. Just learn from what they have done, and remember what your life is without the drug. This is a fucked up country, but that doesn't mean you have to live up to it. Pot smokers do hurt themselves, by inhibiting their ambition. Do people need pot? Then why are they buying it?

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSm7BcQHWXk

  48. QUESTION:
    Help, my mom won't stop drinking...?
    My mom has been drinking for as long as I can remember. She gets drunk. Then the next morning she starts to drink again as soon as she wakes up. It usually lasts a week. I don't live with her anymore because honestly I don't want my daughters to see that.

    She works for my sister's husband selling water softens. She is the best in the country and she makes about ten thousand dollars a month. Then she takes that money and goes MIA.

    The last couple of years it has gotten real bad. This is happening more and more often, and this time, it has been a 15 days. She missed my daughter's fifth birthday, thanks giving, and her own birthday. I am getting really scared.

    I studied alcoholism in a history class, a drug class, and I wrote 4 research papers on the physical and mental long term effects of binge drinking. Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. When a person drinks non-stop for a long time, like my mom, their brain tries to counter act the depression by over stimulating it. When the alcohol is suddenly taken away (when she decides to stop, or runs out of money) the central nervous system becomes over stimulated.

    The withdrawals from alcohol are called delirium-tremens. It is more deadly then heroin withdrawals. It starts with a really bad hang over. Any person's hang over is withdrawals from the drug (Alcohol is a drug), that's why drinking a small amount of alcohol helps the symptoms so much.

    After, or during that stage, the person begins to shake. They can't stop their hands, head and other extremities from shaking. Kinda like boxers who have been hit in the head too many times.

    The next step is tingling sensations. It is described as spiders crawling on your skin, and can progress to the feeling of snake bites. These sensations make the next stage even more frightening, hallucinations (delirium). These hallucinations are almost always terrifying.

    Once a person reaches the delirium stage, they need to go to the hospital so that a doctor can give them a barbiturate. Barbiturates work because they are and alternative depressant drug, but the doctor is able to regulate this drug better then alcohol and slowly wean the patient off. It the alcoholic dose not receive medical attention, the final stage is grand-mal seizures (tremens). This is often followed by death. Every time a person survives these withdrawals, the symptoms become more and more sever every time.

    There are many other ways alcohol can kill you. In the short term, car accidents, falling, etc. ( those thing have happen to my mom) Long term, a person can get a fatty liver that leads to cirrhosis of the liver and death. If they don't die from it, they will probably loss their mind. Binge drinking has detestation effects on a person's short term memory, problem solving ability, emotions, and personality. Basically, in the long run, it's like taking a sledgehammer to the forehead and permanently damaging your cerebral cortex (the part of your brain that makes you who your are).

    Most people don't know about delirium-tremens, or these other horrible consequences. I certainly didn't know when I was younger. Looking back, I saw some of these terrible symptoms in my mom. Her personality has changed and she repeats the same sentence a lot. The most terrifying, though, is that I have seen her shake, and heard her scream for seemingly no reason when she is coming down from a binge. She blacks out for days when this happens. She wakes up with no almost no memory of this happening, and acts like every thing is fine, but I know she realizes what she did. How can she deny loosing a week on the calendar?

    When I'm done writing I'm going to go to her apartment. She might not let me in, but I will get in anyway. Honestly, it has taken me this long to check on her because I am really afraid I will see her dead. I love my mom.

    My mom had my sister take her to the hospital last time this happened. They admitted her into the psyc ward. My mom didn't like that very much. They couldn't hold, for some reason and let her go. Now she is avoiding my sister and I.

    My sister called the cops on her and told them she was suicidal. They couldn't do anything because my mom wouldn't admit it. Also, she was in her a apartment, so they couldn't take her in for public intoxication. What a f*cked up country. The police can arrest a pot smoker who is not hurting themselves or anyone else. But they can't help my mom who is killing herself, and might try to drive and kill some innocent person.

    I really don't know what to do anymore.

    Please, if anyone out there has an idea of a way to get her help against her own will. If I don't find a way she might die. If she survives this time, it will happen again. She won't stop until she dead.

    • ANSWER:
      Wow, I'm really sorry for her.

      Personally I would try to introduce her to marijuana smoking in order to get her to stop from drinking. I don't really know what else to say because I know that people who drink a lot won't even consider what other people say.

      You could also let her be how she wants, I know it is hard but she is another human being and she probably went through a lot as a result in drinking and as a human being she has the right to live her life how she wants (even though alcohol took over her mind). We all die at some point, she might have found her own strange happiness.

      Take care and please do not be upset about her.